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Hooters Girls: Serving Up More Than Mere Beer

GiggleSugar — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 15:00:00 -0700

Ah, another Hooters girl working hard for the ~~money~~ attention. This chick mastered a crowd pleasing "sit and spin" trick to zest up her usual beer-serving duties. Round and round she goes, pouring drinks and dizzying up herself to excite a room full of gawking pervs. Her reward? A round of applause - from a room full of gawking pervs. (Thanks, College Humor!)

You Asked: He Wants Sex Late at Night

DearSugar — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--

I went to a bar with some friends about a month ago and met this great guy, the bartender actually. He asked for my number that night and we’ve been dating ever since. Our relationship is amazing. We have a lot in common, he makes me laugh, helps fix things around my apartment, is so sweet with my baby niece, and we have the MOST amazing mind-blowing sex – hands down, the best I’ve ever had!

The only problem is that he works really late at night, and after his shift he’ll come over, wake me up at like 3 AM, all turned on, trying to take my PJs off (and I just can’t say “no”). We don’t get to bed until at least an hour later. It's awesome that we have this physical connection --and I’m not complaining about the sex-- but I have to get up really early in the morning for work and I'm just exhausted! He does this at least 3 times a week. Since our relationship is so new, I’m worried that if I talk to him about it, we may lose our spontaneous passion. Any suggestions?

--Satisfied but Tired Tana

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Dear Satisfied but Tired Tana --

It looks like you have a case of the right thing at the wrong time. It’s great that you and your man are getting along so well in the bedroom, but if it’s going to compromise how you feel during the day (and your ability to do your job), then that’s just not going to work for the long haul.

Even though you’re apprehensive about losing the fiery romance, you’ve got to talk to him about this. As wonderful as it is to be sharing incredible intimacy like this, he’s got to respect your schedule. Maybe on those nights that he works really late, he can go back to his apartment instead of yours. On the nights that he’s free, you can spend the night together and plan to get to bed an hour earlier so you have time to "be together," and get still get enough zzzzz’s.

When beginning a new relationship, you’re always going to have to do a little work to weave your schedules together. As long as you’re both flexible and willing to compromise while respecting each other’s needs, there’s no reason why you can’t have a wonderful relationship and incredible sex too!

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Extreme Bartending

GiggleSugar — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 11:00:00 -0700

I would be so irritated if I sidled up to a bar and this guy was my bartender. Thinking he's Tom Cruise from that awful movie Cocktail, this dude is balancing bottles on his head and juggling drinks. You know everyone's all, "Uh, could you just give me my freakin' gin and tonic already?!"

Time For A Monkey Joke!

GiggleSugar — Tue, 06 Feb 2007 04:00:00 -0800

Apparently, my job's so easy...even a monkey could do it! (Not funny.)

Conventional Wisdom: Ask a Bartender

TresSugar — Mon, 18 May 2009 06:00:00 -0700

My boyfriend who was also my best friend has left me, very cruelly. Ten days after the breakup, he started posting pictures of himself with a new girlfriend on Facebook! I hate my job in the family business and want to go abroad. My parents are extremely unhappy about this. None of my friends are here anymore; they have all moved out of town, either getting married or getting a career. I am lonely. I don't even have anyone to go watch a movie with.

Although I have a postgraduate degree, I am not confident that I will find a job in this economic climate, after three years of working in the family. My mom has been diagnosed with an ovarian cyst, which may or may not be malignant. Being the only child, now I am duty bound to take care of her, postponing my rebellious move out of the country. I am 26 and have no idea where my life is going. I have taken to popping Xanax and sleeping off my days; I prefer my dreams to my reality. I wake up at nights with a thumping heart and read novels as long as I am awake. Show me a way. Tell me what to do . . . please. I need help!

- Woeful With Wanderlust

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Dear Woeful,

I am not sure where to begin here. I seriously had to shake myself a stiff martini before I could delve into all of your issues. It sounds like someone has been having the only kind of party that is not any fun: a pity party. It's time to splash some cold water on your face, snap out of your benzo-induced haze, and do some serious soul searching.

Although your ex-boyfriend's behavior may seem cruel, he might have been unhappy for a long time and checked out of the relationship months prior to making the move. People get lazy in that comfortable space and often don't have the gumption to break up with the person until they meet someone else. You should be thankful that he had the decency to break up with you rather than carry on some torrid affair based on the fear that he didn't want to hurt you.

I am going to take a stab in the dark here and guess that you were one of those girls who let her friendships wane, instead spending nights at home watching movies with your boyfriend. Please learn something from this experience. You should only have to experience that feeling of complete and utter aloneness once in your lifetime. Having a great group of friends always helps ease the pain of a breakup. They are there to remind you what a fun, smart, and sexy person you are and can say things like, "There are so many other fish in the sea," and "We always thought he was a douchebag but just didn't have the heart to tell you."

As far as your family and career go, yes, yes, yes to living abroad. Become bilingual, trilingual, quadlingual. People automatically respect you. If you're worried about dilly dallying away your time while our economy is in the crapper, do some volunteer work in another country. I have a sense that you might be a business-minded gal; what about helping women in South America write business plans? Just a thought, but I am sure there are programs applicable to your profession out there, and I am a firm believer in always trying to better yourself.

You seem like you have been the dutiful daughter for far too long. Since you are the only child, I am sure your parents are going to be nervous, but they obviously love you and will not disown you for making an independent decision. Now, if your mom truly does have ovarian cancer, maybe consider a month-long trip oversees - in which case, party your ass off - instead of relocation.

Lastly, lay off the freaking Xanax. Benzodiazepines are highly addictive with long-term use. Your words suggest anxiety and depression, which I predict is a product of your current situation and hopefully not a chemical imbalance that needs medical attention. You seem like a hardworking, sensitive, and smart woman. Empower yourself instead of feeling sorry for yourself. Always trust your gut; it never lies. And don't forget to tip your bartender.

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Turn On or Turn Off: Bartenders

DearSugar — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Perhaps by chance, most bartenders are cute and charming. I guess they have to be, since most of their money earned comes from tips, but catering to the drunk and sometimes belligerent would make me less than lovable! I have never dated a bartender myself, but I have a good girlfriend who has always been attracted to them - and the more tattoos, the better. So how do you feel about bartenders? In general, do you get turned on or turned off by these guys?

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Bartending?

Tue, 02 Jan 2007 07:24:04 -0800

I really need to make extra money in addition to my full time job. I hear bartending is good money and I'm considering going to bartending school. Is it worth it?

Headline of the Day

GiggleSugar — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 02:00:00 -0800

Pregnant Woman Accused of Assault at Bar

An angry 7-months-pregnant woman smashed a beer bottle over a bartender's head -almost severing the woman's ear off - after she was refused a drink. To read more about this woman who's shaping up to be an awesome mom, click here.

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Coasters That Detect Date-Rape Drugs in Drinks

TresSugar — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 04:00:00 -0700

Getting reminders that there are predatory men out there willing to spike your drink with date-rape drugs kinda keeps me from ever wanting to leave my apartment again, but at least for the brave bar flies out there, there are now coasters that can be used to detect two "popular" date-rape drugs, GHB (aka "Roofies") and ketamine.

Some bars are willing to fork over the 40 cents-per-coaster to hand these out to women so that they feel safe enough to drink at their bars. It's pretty shocking that this is common enough that a whole industry has been built around it. In case you didn't know, there's also the lip gloss that detects date-rape drugs. Sigh. To watch a news clip about a reserve law enforcement officer who was busted by a bartender using one of these coasters, read more.

Dude, Where's My Drink?!

GiggleSugar — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 09:00:00 -0800

"It's been an hour since I ordered my scotch and soda. Could you please quit channeling Tom Cruise from Cocktail and hand it over?"