I voted no but I did. Well it wasn't supposed to be that way but for some reason it was. We had a great time though!

I voted no but I did. Well it wasn't supposed to be that way but for some reason it was. We had a great time though!

My friends did this because neither of them were big on going out/drinking/strippers or any of that. So they mainly just had it as a get together and invited all their friends.

I'd rather just a night with my girls, but if he insisted I would.

If he wanted to have a joint party, then yeah, I'd be all for it. But, if not then I wouldn't be heartbroken.

This sounds like something a roommate of mine would be into... She's very needy of her boyfriend, so I wouldn't be surprised if she would want to spend her bachelorette party this way.

I think joint sounds fun

Neither of us wanted or had a bachelor/ette party. I would probably enjoy going to a joint one better than an all girls one though.

I think it sounds fun too! I mean - I never got why you HAD to go out and get liquored up seperatly! My man and I have awesome times when we go out and this would be a great excuse to make all our friends come out together

I didn't have a joint bachelorette/bachelor party, but I certainly wouldn't have minded having one. Though, I really liked spending time alone with my ladies "one last time" before I got hitched, and I know my husband felt the same with his buddies :]

I voted it no, have an engagement party/receptions that is for you and your future husband/husband. Keep the bachelorette/bachelor party for you and you friends. It's always healthy to do things a part and have your own interest in a relationship why start being overbearing or suffocating before your even married!

By the way ...you can have a bachelorette/bachelor parties that are separate and without strippers, or alcohol....

I think it may help couples on a budget, but kinda takes away from the whole idea of a bachelor/bachelorette party. By the way, I have no interest in strippers being at my bach'ette...not really too keen on them being at his either. Ya know?

We did and it was fun. Disneyworld for a couple of days with friends.

my friend had a great semi-joint party.
the bride and groom each had their own party bus to take them to separate bars around town, and then at the end of the night they met up at a karaoke bar and partied together.

Ideally for me would be: seperate, do the whole strippers and getting way too drunk thing, and then after the bars close head back to our place for an all night party with everyone:)!

I would. We probably will end up having one together anyways.

I don't even think it's all about being needy of the significant other. If my boyfriend and I were engaged, I would definitely want to have a joint party because we have THE same friends, and it wouldn't be the same if we all split it up between the boys and the girls.

My husband and I did this. It was so much fun! I'm really more of a guys' girl anyway, admittedly-- that took the pressure off. I personally can't handle too much "girly."

i only have like 5 female friends, including my sister, mom and 12 year old cousin... so yeah... co-ed would be best... i have a good 10 close male friends.. although i'm not sure id enjoy having a party with my bf and his friends... it would be too raunchy... (although at least i'd know whats going on...)

I'm not really big on strippers but I think I'd still want a night out with just the girls.

I dont really see the point in all the penis straws and strippers anyway. So, yea....I think it would be fun.

No way.... I expect my guy to have strippers... he can look but not too much touching... and I'll probably have strippers too haha! It's a time to be on your not so best behavior... Who wants the pressure of a jealous finance? It's just a night to get loose and have fun... and I would NEVER have or allow my man to have his party the night before the wedding! I say a week or more prior... No one needs to deal with a hang over at the ceremony.

No way.... I expect my guy to have strippers... he can look but not too much touching... and I'll probably have strippers too haha! It's a time to be on your not so best behavior... Who wants the pressure of a jealous finance? It's just a night to get loose and have fun... and I would NEVER have or allow my man to have his party the night before the wedding! I say a week or more prior... No one needs to deal with a hang over at the ceremony.

My vote's a no for myself. The joint party is the wedding! My bachelorette is actually next month, and it's the chance for me to catch up with some girlfriends that I haven't seen in a very long time (I have several long-distance friends). My fiance has the same situation with some of his buddies. We trust each other, and it'll be nice to have some downtime with friends prior to the wedding.

Nic and I share the same circle of friends, give or take a few so a joint party would be awesome

Ok, first of all, the Fergs is engaged? I Had no idea!

I voted separate - I always visualised my bachelorette party as more of a pamper weekend, maybe a week before the wedding. Me, both mothers (depending on my relationship with his mum - I'm single, so this is more of a fantasy, lol!) all the bridesmaids etc, just a weekend of massages, pedi-and manicures, eyelash tinting, waxing, the lot. Just lazing around, drinking champagne and doing all the pre-stuff!

I'm not really big on strippers or anything like that, and just because I'm married doesnt mean I can't ever go out and party again, so yeah, I'd prefer to do something different and relaxing and girly!

In his case, I wouldn't really care/mind what he chose to do. I'd be expecting something reasonably wild but I wouldn't want to hear about it.

Actually, I don't know if anyone has seen the movie 'Mamma Mia' but what they did was kind of cute - they partied separately, and then halfway through the night the boys turned up unexpectedly so they could party together - so I guess it depends on circumstance. Whatever works for you!

I'd much rather have a joint party than separate. The thought of a girls-only party with a veil and feather boa and inflatable penises and a scavenger hunt makes me want to hurl. I'd much rather have a backyard barbecue with ALL of our friends.

I would actually love a Joint Partay!!! I think it would be so much more fun for me and my other. I have more guy friends than gf anyways so it would work out wonderfully. When/if I get married I would like to do this. I have more fun in a mixed crowd.

We did this. My husband and I were together for close to 8 years before getting married. Many of our friends were our friends. Further, I was friends with lots of guys, so there was really no "girls night out" for me. It was much more fun to celebrate with everyone than separating it out in a girls/guys thing. We had a really good time!

I don't have many girl friends, but I'd want he and I to have separate parties. It's our "last night out," so we might as well do it up. haha

this is something that my fiance and i have been talking about a little bit. our wedding is in april and he's been married before so he's done the crazy stuff (i hope) so i don't think that he's necessarily looking to have an 'out there' party - but for me, i don't know. i kind of like his friends and i think that it could be a lot of fun to have a joint party, but my friends might be able to come up with something fun for us. i don't know . i'm kind of on the fence about this one.

We totally had a Jack and Jill party!! It was really fun - we went to this huge beer hall with all of our friends, and we kind of split up - the guys mostly hung out and the girls mostly hung out, but there was plenty of crossover and it was just really really nice.

He can do his thing and I'll do mine. It the last night of being single you shouldn't have your party as a couple that defeats the purpose

Honestly.I don't know.I guess it depends on the people and also the relationship of the two people.So I can't really say

No. None at all really.

Maybe. It might be fun but I think I would want to do something with just my girls.

I WANTED a joint party (we really have the same circle of friends), but my husband's father was his best man and he thought a bunch of the men would be uncomfortable having me and my girlfriends there, so we made it separate. I got text messages all night from my husband telling me how much fun he thought I would have been having had I been there.

Didn't have one at all, didn't really want one. Really not into the bachelorette parties that focus heavily on penis decor.