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SuperLove: An Emotional Ellen Talks about the Oscars

DearSugar — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 12:01:00 -0800

Ellen always inspires me to dream big, to tell the truth and to never believe it's too late. I really wanted to share this with you, ladies, in case you missed it! But definitely go all the way to the end . . . and grab a tissue.

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The Winners Unite at The Governor's Ball While Our Winners Enjoy Prada Bags Galore

PopSugar — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 16:46:53 -0800

For those lucky enough to win, The Oscar party continued at the Kodak Theater Governor's Ball after the show. They compared the sizes of their little gold men and basked in the general glow of each other. We don't blame them, so many of last night's winners waited for decades to get the recognition they deserve. Not just Martin Scorsese but Alan Arkin and Forest Whitaker as well. In case you missed it, here's a complete list of winners. As for the Sugar Network contest, we would like to congratulate the top winners of our ballot contest. The Grand Prize Prada Bag Winner is.... LegallyBlonder with 20 out of 24 correct!!!! Other runners up are Alliebelle and Witchy Ways with 19 and slashyelizabeth with 18 correct. They will enjoy some sweet cash to our favorite stores, Neiman Marcus, Apple and Sephora. Congrats to all and thanks for playing.

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Images include Leonardo DiCaprio, Helen Mirren, Forest Whitaker, Alan Arkin, Melissa Etheridge, Graham King, Rick Yorn, Roy Lee, Martin Scorsese, Davis Guggenheim, Al Gore, Lawrence Bender, Sherry Lansing, Elisabeth Shue, Keisha Whitaker

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Gore in '08?...Oh, Wait.

GiggleSugar — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 15:00:00 -0800

This was one of the funnier moments last night. Leo sets Gore up to face the music and realize that his time has come and gone...in more ways than one.

Three Stooges Take The Stage At The Oscars

GiggleSugar — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 13:00:00 -0800

Do funny guys finish last? Will Ferrell, Jack Black and John C. Reilly take a serious song-and-dance moment to explain why a comedian is "the saddest man of all" come Oscar night. (And yes, Will's sadness extends beyond the fact that he unwittingly decided to stick his finger in a light socket prior to the show.)

Gore at the Oscars

GiggleSugar — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 09:33:15 -0800

Jimmy Kimmel tries to liven up Al Snore--I mean Gore--at the Oscars. An Inconvenient Truth won for best documentary, but here Kimmel imagines what would happen if it won for best song.

Oscar Envy: Dealing With the Green-Eyed Monster

DearSugar — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 08:00:00 -0800

Since the first Academy Awards presentation in 1929, the list of those performers who have won an Oscar remains tiny compared with the long list of those nominees who didn't win or those who weren't even nominated for important performances. Of the twenty performers nominated this year, only Streep, Dench and Blanchett have won an Oscar. And 10 of the twenty nominees have been up before, including those 3 women.

Film is a notoriously ruthless and competitive field, and making it in Hollywood can be both a personal and professional gauntlet. Contacts, ambition, chops, looks and talent don't guarantee anything. Stars appear, endure, fade or flame out every day. Still, success in any field often demands intense effort fueled by passion, desire, ambition and competition. Despite many worthwhile accomplishments, it's still true that not everyone can or will achieve the success they dreamed of, which means disappointment and envy will be our companions at some point along the way.

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There's no more scratchy and uncomfortable feeling than watching that Oscar shot, right before the winner is announced, when all the nominees are together in small frames on the screen. They know they are being watched, and they know in mere seconds they will have won an Oscar or lost one, a significant and staggering moment in any actor's career.

How does it feel to lose, and so publicly, something so critical to one's career and future? How does it feel to watch someone else win, and so publicy? And what if you feel, or know, that the winner isn't as deserving, as talented, or as hard-working as you? The greatest number of people in that auditorium tonight will experience disappointment, and it's entirely likely many will feel envious.

People usually mistake jealousy for envy. But jealousy involves a fear of loss and is usually connected to a feeling of insecurity or threat (as with a 'rival'), whereas envy depends on feelings of inferiority and comparison. It's often married to a preoccupation with what someone else has.

The research shows that one is more likely to experience envy in areas of comparison or competition, especially when that endeavor matters to you. And, according to The Psychological Bulletin (2007) , envy is best defined as a “state in which the desired advantage enjoyed by another person or group of people causes a person to feel a painful blend of inferiority, hostility, and resentment.”

The burning question, of course, becomes how to manage these feelings, because they certainly aren't going away. Denied or dismissed, envy can be destructive and harmful to your health, your relationships, and your future.

In this fascinating article about the nature and consequences of envy, Dr. Smith and Dr. Kim also offer techniques and strategies for dealing with the green-eyed monster:

1. Self-Reliance and Perseverance. To "perseverate" is to repeat an action over and over. In this instance, the term is used to suggest that you repeatedly examine your thoughts to determine whether they are envious. If you find that they are envious at any given moment, remind yourself of how these thoughts don't help your life and can actually harm it. The more you can manage to catch and correct your thinking, the easier it will be to remain envy-free.

2. Selective Ignoring and Distraction. When you find yourself thinking envious thoughts, quickly remind yourself that the other person's advantage isn't important in the grand scheme of things, and then focus on other thoughts (a pleasant memory, things that need to be done, etc) or engage in another activity. By distracting yourself with another absorbing thought or activity, you can stop your envious thoughts in their tracks.

3. Self-Bolstering involves reminding yourself of your own positive qualities and advantages. This strategy doesn't seem to reduce envy itself, but can make you feel less angry and depressed in the face of your envy.

The most current studies indicate that the first two strategies work best for dealing with envy in situations at work or with friends. The good news? It is possible to manage these feelings, which is a much better alternative to being consumed or controlled by them!

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Dear Poll: Which Red-Carpet Couple Did You Hope Would Make It?

DearSugar — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 06:00:00 -0800

We've seen come crazy couples over the years, and there's no more glamorous place to debut new love than a red carpet. As movie fans, it's easy to become invested in our favorite stars' relationships. People call it quits, and you find yourself honestly wishing they could have made it.

Sadly, none of the stars below could make it work. Still, which couple were you hoping would last?

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Dressed to Ill at the Oscars

GiggleSugar — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 04:00:00 -0800

Remember when Kim Basinger dated The Artist Formerly Known as Prince (when he was still Prince) and showed up at the Oscars in a one-sleeved outfit she designed herself? No? That's probably because she hired a PR firm to wipe it out of your memory permanently. Not the Prince part, but the dress part. See for yourself.

Have Oscar fever yet? Fill out our Oscar ballot! We're making it even more exciting by giving away some fabulous prizes. Runners-up will get $50 to $500 gift cards from Neiman Marcus, Sephora and The Apple Store while the Grand Prize winner will receive a Prada bag (yes we have a thing for bags)! Good luck and for official rules click here.

Vote Now: Weirdest Oscars Moment Ever?

GiggleSugar — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 03:00:00 -0800

It's not surprising that on Oscars night, emotions run high and weird stuff happens. Although you may be too young for some of the following odd moments, you may have heard of them. So tell us, what's the weirdest Oscars moment ever?

Exes at the Oscars: Tips for Remaining a Class Act

DearSugar — Sat, 24 Feb 2007 08:00:00 -0800

There's no getting around a bad break-up and its side effects. And sometimes there's no getting around being in the same room with your ex before you've managed to really get yourself centered again. And even if you think you're doing alright, that kind of proximity can set off an avalanche of feelings, memories, and rawness. Now imagine thousands of flashbulbs, dozens of televison crews, and millions of viewers. If all the exes at the Oscars can pull it off with grace for one night, so can we!

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I like being prepared in these situations, so whether or not you know you'll be running into an ex, try to have a little game plan ready in advance. Do not, however, ruminate or obsess with your preparation. It's like the difference between running a mile as a warm-up and running a marathon.

There's often a little vanity that creeps into a run-in with the ex, and that's a good thing to keep in mind. You might catch yourself looking for signs of an epiphany, the one where he realizes what a god-awful mistake he made. Shake that off as quickly as possible!

Especially in a formal gathering, keep the greeting simple, casual and warm. Make and maintain eye contact. Be very aware of your breathing; in stressful situations we usually don't breathe enough or regularly, and this can create a cascade of stress responses. Inhale. Exhale.

Smile. Tell him how dapper he looks. No petty comments or innuendo. Try to keep the conversation brief, and it's best not to mention anything from the past, friends you have in common or any other shared experiences. Keep it down to earth and in the present tense. End the conversation warmly, excuse yourself, and tell him how nice it was to see him again. Make it Oscar-worthy.

If he has a new friend on his arm, the waters might be a little choppier. I always love Sex and the City for its realism about these things!

Samantha: Well, let's just say it: you won.
Carrie: Was there a contest?
Samantha: Oh please! There's always a contest with an ex. It's called "who will die miserable."

or

Carrie: I had often fantasized about running into my ex and his wife. But in those fantasies, I was running over them with a truck.

I know it can be excruciating and unsettling, seeing your ex with another woman, but this exercise is about helping you keep your equilibrium and poise in public. If he doesn't introduce his friend during the greeting, make a point to introduce yourself (name only!) and apologize for not getting her name. Then say 'Hello ______, it's a pleasure to meet you'. Be gracious and warm. Include her in the conversation and make eye contact with them both.

Move on with your evening, stay engaged and available to other people, and please do not spend any time scanning the room for him or positioning yourself in his line of vision.

When you get home and if you need to vent, find your journal or take a few sheets of paper and write -- I like to make the letters very big when I'm seriously worked up -- every last thing you truly feel about the encounter. Then start making plans to reward yourself for all that strength and dignity. Inhale. Exhale.

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