"I admire her and continue to admire her. That might play into the reason I don't have much of a problem letting the women I've worked with shine. I love women."
— Jake Gyllenhaal tells Esquire UK that admiration for his sister Maggie has helped him honor all women. Just another benefit of having a sister!
Seems like lots of people had something to say about being called "babe" or "sweetheart" at work, and there were comments on my Do People at Work Use Pet Names? poll that almost made me laugh out loud. I was careful to keep my grinning to a minimum because I don't want to scare off my co-workers. Here are some of my favorites:
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Do you hate it when your colleagues call you sweetheart? A list of the most hated pet names at work was released by online survey site OnePoll and it seems that "love" is the most hated name for UK female employees. Running a close second is "darlin,'" followed by "babe." About 75 percent of the women surveyed feel that pet names are unacceptable.
Luckily, this is not an issue I have to deal with, but I'm wondering how many of you out there have to face this everyday. Do you hear people using pet names at work?
This post was shared by reader onlysourcherry in our Ask Savvy group.
I started at my current company right out of college. I've been promoted twice and am now an assistant manager with a huge range of responsibilities. Unfortunately (at work at least) I'm young, blonde, and a woman. While people stopped treating me like my boss's secretary when I moved into an office, one issue lingers — my coworkers sometimes call me "sweetie" or "honey" on the phone. It's mostly older women who do this. It drives me crazy! Is there a tasteful and professional way I can point out to them that this is really inappropriate? Or should I just suck it up and deal with it?
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Moms can be such pushovers. Sometimes all it takes are a few well-chosen words, like "I respect you," to make her day. So if you forgot to send a Mother's Day gift, don't despair: there's still time to send an ecard! Better yet, send one for a good cause.
The Respect Campaign, devoted to the prevention of family violence, has an easy-to-send ecard that gives you plenty of space to tell your mom — or anyone, for that matter — why you look up to her. So throw together a few elegant lines about what she taught you about respecting yourself and make your mom's day.
"Respect" isn't just an awesome song by Aretha Franklin. It's a seemingly simple word loaded with meaning, from showing respect for our elders to seeking respect at work to demanding respect in relationships. In the Respect Campaign of the Family Violence Prevention Fund, it means respecting yourself and your loved ones in order to avoid resorting to violence or emotional abuse.
So in honor of Mother's Day and the Respect mission, tell me: what lessons did you learn from your mother about respecting yourself and others?
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This Mother's Day, consider giving your mom the gift of respect. The Family Violence Prevention Fund brings you this philanthropic The RESPECT! Bracelet ($5). Half of the proceeds from the sale of each bracelet will benefit FVPF's RESPECT! campaign, dedicated to preventing dating abuse, domestic violence, sexual assault, and child abuse. I'm in, are you?
DearSugar and Sleepless Sammy need your help. Her roommate has been extremely disrespectful and it's starting to affect her ability to get a good night's sleep. She's tried to talk with her roommate about it, but she has yet to make an effort to change. She's stuck in her lease until the end of Summer, so do you have any advice as to how she can make the best of this living satiation?
Dear Sugar,
I'm in law school and living in an apartment with another girl who I found on Craigslist. It's been about seven months now and I feel like she has absolutely no respect for me. She uses my stuff, eats my food, drinks my beer, and lets her friends crash on our couch without ever asking me. I can deal with these things; however, I recently hit my breaking point.
My roommate likes to sleep around and will have loud, porn-like sex even when I’m home. It's not that I'm a prude — she's entitled to sleep with whoever she wants — but our walls are paper thin and I can hear every bed creak, scream, and moan, and sometimes I can feel her bed shake through the wall we share. Her late night activities are wreaking havoc on my sleep pattern and I'm constantly exhausted. I’ve talked to her about it once before but nothing has changed. I’m stuck in this lease until August but I can't continue living like this. What should I do? — Sleepless Sammy
All We're Asking Is For a Little Respect We talk a lot about respect on DearSugar, so today's National Respect Day caught my eye. The RESPECT! Campaign is adding more meaning to this important word by educating people about domestic violence. So I'm excited to announce that the Sugar Network is partnering with the Family Violence Prevention Fund to raise awareness about sexual assault and take a stand against child abuse.
Dear Sugar,
My roommate moved to Seattle (my town) from Indiana at the end of June after I had secured a lease on an apartment. We had never met before, except online through a mutual hobby. She moved in time to go to an interview for a job she did not end up getting. A month went by before she found work, leaving me to pay the rent in its entirety, with the agreement that she'd pay me back once she found a job. Meanwhile, as she sat at home looking for a job all day, she did nothing to clean the apartment. I would come home from work, do the dishes, clean up the place, make dinner, and then go to bed. Rinse, repeat.
She finally got a job, and then lost it three weeks later. This was not her fault, but regardless, it has been three weeks since she lost her job and she still does not have another. Not even a minimum wage job to tide her over until she finds a web design job she wants. And yet again, she fails to do anything around the apartment.
I can't stand the fact that I'm living with someone I find to be irresponsible. In addition to the lack of cleaning, lack of job, and lack of ability to pay rent on time, I hate her dog. I walk in every night and the dog is all over me. She doesn't do anything to stop it, so I always feel like the bad guy for disciplining it. We are both on the lease. I've already inquired about switching roommates and the landlord said it wouldn't be a problem, but how do I tell her I want her out? She has no money and no job, but I'm simply miserable! — At My Wits End Emma
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