This moment is simultaneously glorious and nerve-racking: your relationship is serious enough to merit a meeting of your love's parents, but that means you have to impress the two people who can say you're worthy or not worthy. We've put together five foolproof outfits to make sure you make the right impression. Click our slideshow to see.
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I've always been nervous about bringing guys home to meet the parents. I'd never be able to date and certainly not marry someone that they don't approve of. Okay, never say never, but the odds are pretty good that I wouldn't be able to. I've heard/know of too many people who have in-law horror stories. I wouldn't want any strong animosity between my husband and my parents or me with his parents.
Plus I respect my parents. Their opinion does matter . . . to an extent.
The other reason I'm not always thrilled about taking a guy home is that my dad is freaking scary when it comes to picking out personalities. Any guy I've brought home that he said wasn't good for me, wasn't. And I just don't want to hear that a guy I really like enough to bring home isn't good enough according to my dad. I'm not talking the "no man will ever be good enough for my baby girl" rubbish. I'm talking the my dad gives me a look, pulls me to the side, and says, "He's no good for you."
All the scary meet the parents stuff aside, when is a good time to take a someone home? When you are comfortable with him? Is there a time frame? Obviously a week is a little soon. And I'd think that a year is too long. Six months? Do you count from when you started dating? Or when you became serious? Or when you first kissed? Or maybe even when you first had sex? And last but not least, do you just wait until your significant other starts complaining that you haven't taken them home yet?
When do you take them home to meet the parents?
I've been dating this guy for a little over month. No BF/GF talk, we are just happily dating.
We spent Friday night together, met up with some of my friends and even a couple of his came out. The next morning I made us breakfast and we made plans but he wanted to go home first to get some things. When he got home he called and said he forgot it was his bro's bday and his Mom wanted the family to go to dinner and he asked if I wanted to come.
I thought about it but said no. I said that I did want to meet his family some other time, but it was his brother's birthday and I didn't want to steal any spotlight from him. Honestly I really didn't think it was the right time for me to meet his whole family. I didn't want his brother's birthday dinner to turn into a "meet his older brother's new girl" dinner.
He said OK and muttered something about how he felt bad for ditching on our plans. I said it was fine and he could just come over after. Which he did for a bit before going out to meet up with friends (they were badgering him to come out since he NEVER has Saturdays off...so I told him to go).
Did I royally **** up by not going to dinner with his family? Do you think he'll ever ask me again? I feel like kicking myself now, like I missed an opportunity and he is pushing me away now.
I texted him yesterday asking him if he had fun and he responded hours later that he did. I asked him how work was going and he never responded. It's been over 24 hours....which is rare....am I being blown off?
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Whether it's a casual family gathering or a high-pressure holiday, meeting your sig-o's parents is never easy. But the pressure really mounts when those parents will soon be your in-laws.
No matter how cool they are, your first time meeting your boyfriend's or girlfriend's parents will give you the jitters, and that's perfectly OK. It's a pretty big deal, so just accept that and move on. Meanwhile, follow these 10 simple rules, and you'll be off to a good start.
- Don't make it all about you. You want to make a good first impression, but spouting off endless facts about yourself isn't necessarily the way to go. Think of yourself as a guest at their family gathering, rather than the center of attention.
- Do ask questions. This serves two purposes: it makes people feel special, and it lets you get to know what they're all about. Chances are, they'll have some cute stories to tell about your fiancè and the fam.
Hey everyone, my best friend is a member of this site and she suggested I ask you all for advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for about nine months and everything is going great. A few days ago while on our mini vacation for Winter break he told me he thought it was time for me to meet his parents, sister, brother, and "little" brother (not really his brother but a boy he has become like a big brother to). When he asked me this I was shocked because his best friend told me he has never had a girlfriend meet his family, not even his ex-girlfriend who he was with for a year while he lived at home.
Knowing he wants me to meet his family has made me both extremely happy and extremely nervous. I have never met the family of a boyfriend before and I am terrified that they won’t like me. I talked to my boyfriend about this and told him I was scared they would think I wasn’t good enough for him. He said I was crazy and he knew they would love me like he does. But my boyfriend is incredible, and it wouldn’t be the first time someone has told me I don’t deserve him. Five months ago a girl got my number off a volunteer list he signed us up for and left a voicemail on my phone listing over 10 reasons I wasn’t good enough for him. A few reasons on her list were that he was only 24 and already had a master’s degree while I was 19 (at the time) and in college, he already has a career and volunteers with numerous organizations. She basically listed all the great things he has done and does for the community, and said that he deserves someone who is just as great as him. At the time this really strained our relationship because I always felt like he was going to leave me for someone better. We worked it out and he was able to reassure me that he loves me and that I am the one he wants.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for just under three months and everything has been absolutely amazing. We have a wonderful connection, he's sweet, generous, and loving, and the passion is undeniable. Things have been going so well that we recently decided to meet each other's families.
While I'm really excited to take this next step in our relationship, I've also been experiencing a lot of anxiety about it — my family has no idea that we met through an online dating website; and neither do my friends. I know my older brothers and sister will never let me hear the end of it and I fear that this news will spread like wildfire. I know that how we met is just a formality, but I can't help but feel incredibly embarrassed that I had to resort to such measures.
My boyfriend is perfectly comfortable with the truth of how we met, and I know that my insecurity about it can't make him feel very good, but I just can't help it — I'm ashamed to admit that I was an online dater! Would it be terrible if I asked my boyfriend to lie to my family for me?
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The holidays are fast approaching, so if you're meeting your boyfriend's parents for the first time, you might want to check out the five helpful tips that Glamour magazine is sharing with us in their November issue. As we all know, meeting the parents is a huge rite of passage, one that is never taken lightly, so check out my take on their five suggestions below and a few of my own, too.
- Be present. If you're overly consumed with a pimple on your face or worrying that you're not saying the right thing, you could in turn come off aloof. Make sure his parents know you're interested in the conversation and in the moment.
- Don't overspend to impress. Sending a thank you note, flowers, or bringing a small gift as a thank you for hosting you is always a nice gesture, but don't go overboard — you don't want to seem like you're trying too hard.
- Volley the hard questions to him. If his parents put you on the spot to the point of uncomfortableness, turn to your boyfriend and cue him to take over. He'll know how to pull back the reins.
To see two more of Glamour's tips and to check out my additions, just read more