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2011 Oscars

Are There Any Francophiles Left?

James Franco was asked to host the Oscars before he was nominated, so we can't blame him for that awkward dynamic.

James Franco was asked to host the Oscars before he was nominated, so we can't blame him for that awkward dynamic. Like so many award hosts before, he's taking a bashing today and may need some image control. It's a wonder they get anyone to take those gigs!

Where was he? Was he high? Was it performance art? Is he just too post-post-something to care? That's how the press sounds today. It doesn't help that he told Vanity Fair's Screening Room earlier this month that he felt no pressure, had no jitters, and didn't particularly care how he did.

"If it's the worst Oscars show ever, who cares? It's like, it's fine. It's one night. It doesn't matter. If I host the worst Oscar show in the history of the Oscars, like, why do I care?"

In his defense, that probably came out wrong or was taken out of context. I suspect what he meant was "It's showbiz, not DIY surgery." He's curious, creative, intellectual — we love that — but between attending multiple grad programs, writing a book, creating art installations, using himself as an art object, teaching courses, and acting in feature films, sitcoms, and soap operas, Franco fatigue is in the air. Maybe he just makes us feel lazy?

His real image problem lies not in last night, but in the expanding chasm between his blasé, not-even-trying persona and heaping pile of achievements. It's hard to be perceived as genuine when this gap gets too wide; it can look like a Joaquin Phoenix-style joke on the world, and fans don't want to be the butt of that.

The fact is he works hard, ditching last night's afterparties to hop on a plane and return to school. I say, Franco, gather your books and art and awards, and just own it. It's OK to care. So you're ambitious? There are worse things.

relationships

Dear Poll: Would You Want to Be the Better-Looking One?

Even if you don't like to admit it, looks matter.

Even if you don't like to admit it, looks matter. Both our own and those of the people we date. It deems us as shallow if we place too much emphasis on appearance, but when it comes down to it, that's what initially attracts us to one another.

I'm always fascinated by people's reaction to the looks discussion and my friends over at Smitten touched upon this topic in a fun, cheeky way. They posed some great questions and I'd like to ask all of you one of them: Would you rather be the better looking one in your relationship?

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dating and technology

Do Tell: Are You Always Prepared?

You really never know when, where, or how you will meet Mr. Right.

You really never know when, where, or how you will meet Mr. Right. I've offered up my fair share of advice on where eligible men could be hiding, but it's important to do your part, too. Of course being approachable is crucial, but so is being the best you at all times — you know, just in case! Now I've never been one to put on my face so to speak before leaving the house, but I have some friends that are perfectly coiffed at all times, even if they're just going to the gym or running to the store to buy eggs. So what about you? Do you aim to look your best at all times, keeping a lipstick and compact close by, just in case you bump into a possible suitor?

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Celebrity

Do Celebrities Make You Feel Better or Worse About Yourself?

It's no secret that Americans have a fascination with celebrities.

It's no secret that Americans have a fascination with celebrities. Of course knowing that they live in a completely different world than we do makes admiring them from a far all the more fun, but new research shows that praising celebrities can actually improve self-esteem in those that suffer from low self-esteem. Jaye L. Derrick and Shira Gabriel of the University at Buffalo said:

Connections to celebrities — or parasocial relationships — can allow people with low-self esteem to view themselves more positively. . . . These parasocial relationships, which have very low risk of rejection, offer low self-esteem people an opportunity to reduce their self-discrepancies and feel closer to their ideal selves.

While I find this research interesting, I happen to feel the exact opposite — though I would never want to be a celebrity myself, I do look at them through envious eyes. It's their perfect exterior that makes me feel inferior, even though I'm fully aware of all the help, time, and effort it takes to make them look that way. What about you? How do you feel when you compare yourself to celebrities? Do they make you feel better or worse about yourself?

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women

Dear Poll: Are You an Up/Down Girl?

Women are critical of one another — that's not a new phenomena, but nor is it always the case!

Women are critical of one another — that's not a new phenomena, but nor is it always the case! Sometimes when we check each other out, it can come off as judgmental and rude when we're really just doing it out of admiration. A friend once coined the term "up/downing" — when your eyes look over every part of her, from head to toe in one, quick glance. Of course, it's impolite, but I think we've all been guilty of doing it at least once! So ladies, whether you're just curious about what she's wearing or you like to people watch, what I want to know is, do you ever give the up/down?

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Poll

Dear Poll: Who is your Favorite Dressed Down Star?

Our favorite celebrities get to play dress up all of the time whether it's hitting the red carpet or attending a charity event, and although they look comfortable dressing the part, I think it is safe to say all women feel more comfortable dressed down.

Our favorite celebrities get to play dress up all of the time whether it's hitting the red carpet or attending a charity event, and although they look comfortable dressing the part, I think it is safe to say all women feel more comfortable dressed down.

It is almost a breath of fresh air to see our favorite celebs letting their hair down, going about their business in street clothes, all the while making themselves a little more relatable. So ladies, who is your favorite dressed down female star?

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