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My ex-boyfriend broke up with me on Sunday, and then wrote me an email on Monday morning explaining why he wants to be single — he needs to grow and mature and hang out with friends. I obviously didn't reply.
I have had an excruciating week, as anyone who has been through a breakup can understand. We had been together for a year. Anyway, on Wednesday night he wrote me a Facebook message saying, "You just want me out of your life?" I then blocked him on Facebook, only to wake up this morning to find he had written me yesterday twice but through my email.
He asked me if I had read his first email, and then said something along the lines of, "Did you delete me from your life permanently? I never meant for all these bad feelings to happen . . . I just realize that I can't be in a relationship right now and I need to grow where I'm at and discover new things. I hope we can still hang out and be friends. I want everything to be okay."
To me, this doesn't make any sense. How can you be friends with someone who you have been intimate with? I was with him for a year. To me it seems like a bad joke. I haven't replied and I just want to get over him. A part of me wonders if he is still interested because he keeps contacting me, but he contacted me to say that he can't be in a relationship, so I don't know what his deal is. Is he pretending? Is he just waking up now that he realizes I'm actually trying to move on?
Sorry for the pathetic situation. I do want to move on with my life. It is just terribly difficult and he is confusing me.
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