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In the latest Hollywood breakup news, 85-year-old Hugh Hefner has been jilted at the altar by his 25-year-old bride, Crystal Harris. Both parties claim to coping well; Hefner has tweeted that he's "happy to be single," and Crystal took to partying in Vegas on the day of the canceled wedding. Hefner's former fiancée might have had something to celebrate — she apparently got to keep the $90,000 three-carat diamond ring that the Playboy mogul proposed to her with, and a Bentley that he had given her.

There are so many things involved in the decision to give back the ring, such as who broke it off and traditional etiquette rules. If you're going by the legal system, you'll have to factor in where you live. In conditional gift states, which include New York and Michigan, the ring needs to be returned if there is no marriage. In an implied conditional state like California, it depends on who breaks off the engagement, and in an unconditional gift state like Montana, the ring does not have to be returned.

What's your take on this — if a couple doesn't end up getting married, who gets to keep the engagement bling?

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When a Couple Breaks Up Before They Marry, Who Should Keep the Ring?

The man — he's the one who bought the ring!

The woman— you shouldn't have to return a gift.

It really depends on the circumstance.

The dress is picked, the location is chosen, and the groom is still a-livin'. All good signs for the marriage of 84-year-old Playboy Hugh Hefner and his unlikely blushing bride, 24-year-old Playmate Crystal Harris.

The Daily Mail interviewed the couple's wedding planner, Kellie Olisky, and I was surprised by some of the elegant choices they made for their June wedding at the Playboy mansion. And then talk turned to bridesmaids and the dresses, and Olisky said it. She really said it.

"One sister is in Idaho. She might need a sleeve."

Unfortunately, or fortunately, most of us aren't privy to these behind-the-scenes conversations because, oh, we don't have them in front of reporters. But, sister Harris, in Idaho, I want you to know it's OK to say no. Here are tips on how to turn down being a bridesmaid gracefully, but sometimes you just need to say it in any shape, at any volume.

Have you turned down a request — gracefully, passive-aggressively, or aggressive-aggressively?

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Have You Said No to Being a Bridesmaid?

Yes

No

I tried, but it didn't take.