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4 Things You Shouldn't Tweet

I check Twitter several times a day (you could call me an addict), and I see a multitude of tweets that should have gone, well, untweeted.

I check Twitter several times a day (you could call me an addict), and I see a multitude of tweets that should have gone, well, untweeted. If you're an avid user of the microblogging site, you probably already know what is and isn't appropriate to tweet, but just in case you need a refresher, here're four things you should think twice about posting to your stream.

  • That you're looking for a new job . . . while still employed. — If you're tired of your current position, it's best to take the safe route in finding a new job to call home. Update your LinkedIn account, start sending out résumés, and for Pete's sake, don't start tweeting about how tired/bored/annoyed you are with your job and co-workers. Recruiters may spend a few minutes looking over your résumé, but you can bet they spend a ton of time Googling you and your online activity.
  • That you're single . . . before actually breaking up. — What's the worst way to break up with someone? A Post-it note or text message may be brutal, but finding out that your significant other is newly "single" on Facebook or Twitter is pretty unforgivable.

See the rest, and add your own suggestions in the comments (or our Facebook page) after the break.

community

Your TMI Bus Stories

Yesterday on a very quiet bus to work a girl was talking to her mom on her cell.

Yesterday on a very quiet bus to work a girl was talking to her mom on her cell. The topic of conversation? How her dad has been cheating on her mom for three years, resulting in a very awkward bus ride for the rest of us. I asked you for your TMI bus stories, and you delivered with some crazy public-transit tales! Read them below, and if you have one to add feel free to share it in comments!

  • "The funniest is when people pay their bills and loudly announce their CC# on a bus full of people! Really?! I guess they are confident and trusting of everyone on the bus! Guess they never heard of identity theft?! The topper is when they also announce their 3 from the back of the card! Some people just don't think." — Devia
  • "I heard a woman on the train telling a coworker about how she was borderline stalking her ex . . . creepy!" — Mandy
  • "A girl was talking loudly with her friend about who knows what but I do remember her saying 'does her mom know I had an abortion?' . . . not in a concerned way, she was talking as if people get abortions on a regular basis, and she was fairly young too" — Sarah
  • "One time a guy on my silent, packed bus started loudly reading out his credit card number, including security code. Everyone on the bus started cracking up, and one girl shouted out (jokingly, I hope) 'I'm writing this down.' I've also heard a woman discussing her AND her boyfriend's diarrhea with her doctor and a guy confront his friend about a rumor he'd cheated on his girlfriend. Trust me, when you commute on crowded buses, you often can't NOT overhear someone else's loud convo." — Mary

Source: Flickr User Jesse Kruger

dating and technology

Is Confessing Past Dating Indiscretions Honest or Selfish?

When I do something wrong or embarrassing, no matter how big or small, I tell someone.


When I do something wrong or embarrassing, no matter how big or small, I tell someone. It's usually something I've done while alone or to no one I know, so it's not a confession per se, but it's always about me unburdening myself. I want to hear "Oh, I've done that," or someone to just laugh it off with. It's why our weekly Sunday Confessional is so popular: saying (or writing) our misdeeds provides release — and great reading material!

But like all things, the confession thickens when it comes to relationships. Today in Group Therapy, a man wants to know if he should tell the new woman he's seeing that he cheated on a past girlfriend by seeing a prostitute. Part of me says, if he's been tested for STDs, hasn't done it since, and has no intention of doing it again, then why bring it up? Is it to ease his conscience or build a foundation of trust?

Honesty is not always the best policy, so is confessing the sins of past relationships, which have no lasting effects (i.e. STDs), honest or selfish?

motherhood

Putting an End to TMMI (Too Much Mom Information)

Sometimes mom information is more than a person can bear.

Sometimes mom information is more than a person can bear. While the graphic details of a c-section infection is water cooler conversation for one woman, it might make another lady's stomach turn. Depending on the parents involved, kid chatter can go from tub toys and tattling to homework issues and head lice in a matter of minutes. And that's appropriate when both parties are willing, but what happens when someone doesn't want to hear about parenthood? From between-the-sheets details of postpartum sex to a play-by-play description of water birth, how do you halt unwarranted conversations? Do you take the polite approach or get right to the point?

Love It or Leave It

Celebrities Airing Dirty Laundry on Twitter: Love It or Leave It?

You already know that I am not a fan of Twitter TMI.

You already know that I am not a fan of Twitter TMI. It's not that I don't like you and want to know what you're up to, but some things are better said IRL. And some things, well, they're better left unsaid. Celebrities are definitely not immune to oversharing their business on Twitter. Trust me, it is never OK to broadcast a pic of your wife's backside to the Twitterverse — ahem, Ashton!

Despite their millions of followers and a brand to uphold, celebrity Twitter blunders keep on happening — will the rich and famous ever learn? Not this week, that's for sure. In one corner, we've got quite the Twitter war waging between musicians Courtney Love and Lily Allen. The pair's longstanding feud got taken to a whole 'nother level when Lily posted a not-so-nice twitpic of Courtney. This sent Courtney into what can only be described as Twitter rage. In 30+ tweets and still counting, Courtney has dragged Lily through the mud, leaving nothing off limits. Ouch.

But it's not all bad between celebs on Twitter. King of the overshare, John Mayer and pop princess, Ke$ha are getting their flirt on in a very public way. I think we'll have to accept that despite the apologies, you can't put a cap on John.

Famous or not, this is all too much for me to handle, but I have a handful of friends that like it when celebrities overshare on Twitter — it makes them feel like they have an insider's view into a celeb's life. There are many celebs, like Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, who have even admitted that part of the reason they share so much on Twitter is to upstage the tabloids by sharing with their fans directly. What do you think?

News

Could Twitter and Foursquare Bump the Price of Home Insurance?

I suppose this makes sense: a UK-based price comparison website predicted that homeowners insurance rates could rise up to ten percent thanks to the popularity and use of location-based services like Twitter and Facebook.

I suppose this makes sense: a UK-based price comparison website predicted that homeowners insurance rates could rise up to ten percent thanks to the popularity and use of location-based services like Twitter and Facebook. I've already suspected that Foursquare could equal overshare thanks to the "check-ins" that let everyone know where you are (or where you're not: home), and insurance companies could be bracing for an increase in break-ins because of it.

Aptly-named website PleaseRobMe is trying to make people aware of how easy it is to determine whether your place is empty by locating and compiling tweets and status updates of people who obviously aren't home, using it as a "slap across the face" to make you more aware of what you tweet. I'm pretty darn careful when it comes to broadcasting where I am, but that's not to say I don't like to brag a bit when I'm at a really great restaurant, or seeing a show I'm excited about. At least the knowledge that my renters insurance rates could spike will make me even more cautious about what I'm declaring to the world! Want some tips on how to keep your location private? Then just read more

celebrity gadgets

13 Celebrity Twitter Blunders

We've all had our Twitter TMI moments and online slipups — you'll know it by that instant feeling of regret after you hit "submit"— but at least you aren't a celebrity with millions of eyeballs watching your every move.
13 Celebrity Twitter Blunders 2010-02-18 05:47:49

We've all had our Twitter TMI moments and online slipups — you'll know it by that instant feeling of regret after you hit "submit"— but at least you aren't a celebrity with millions of eyeballs watching your every move. Or maybe you are? Either way, celebs aren't immune from sending out tweets that would have been better served as a journal entry in the privacy of their own homes. Check out these celebrity Twitter blunders, and try to learn from their mistakes, will ya?

Movies

Reynolds and Faris Are Ready to Share TMI

Confession time: I'm kind of a sucker for Ryan Reynolds, and Just Friends is one of my guilty pleasure movies.

Confession time: I'm kind of a sucker for Ryan Reynolds, and Just Friends is one of my guilty pleasure movies. So imagine my excitement about this morning's news that Reynolds is teaming up with Anna Faris once again for the upcoming comedy TMI. They'll play a couple who learns that "while honesty is the best policy for a relationship, 'too much information' might not be the best thing."

It already sounds like a premise we've seen before in movies like Liar Liar and The Invention of Lying, but I have faith in Reynolds's chemistry with Faris and both actors' comedic timing. On the other hand, this could definitely end up as one of those over-the-top movies that grosses you out more than it makes you laugh (I'm already predicting a fair amount of overshare about bodily functions).

Are you all for this reunion, or should Ryan Reynolds keep sticking with more serious projects (or even just ones with better titles)?

Advice

Awkward! My Friend Keeps Oversharing Her Sex Life

Thanks to a reader with an issue (sorry, reader!), we have an awkward scenario requiring your advice.

Thanks to a reader with an issue (sorry, reader!), we have an awkward scenario requiring your advice. (Have some awkward tales of your own? Join our Awkward! group to get etiquette advice from other readers — that's where we got this gem!)

"I have this really good friend. I love her to death, but she tends to overshare with me, and it's pretty uncomfortable at times. Every time she has sex, I get a text. "Just had amazing sex!" "He's soo great in bed . . . just had the best sex ever!" (Just some of the examples that come to mind.) I get one of these texts almost daily, and it really drives me nuts. I'm afraid that if I say this to her she'll think she can't tell me anything. (She tends to react dramatically.) We are really close and do share a lot, but I don't need an update everytime she gets it on. I don't know what to do!"

Work-Life Balance

Are You Guilty of Sharing TMI at Work?

It's easy to get comfortable at work — logging long hours with your co-workers during company retreats and office happy hours can blur the lines between business hours and social hour.

It's easy to get comfortable at work — logging long hours with your co-workers during company retreats and office happy hours can blur the lines between business hours and social hour. But when it comes to sharing personal anecdotes, too much can affect the way you're perceived at the office.

In some cases, sharing stories can bring you closer to your co-workers in a good way. Talking sports or local news around the watercooler makes you more social, and can even get you noticed with peers and superiors. But recounting the personal details of your bad dating history or your tendency to drink too much, could earn you a reputation as a co-worker to avoid. Even worse, oversharing at the office can make you a likely candidate for dismissal. In the midst of tough economic times, a company looking to cut back, may trim the fat by eliminating the person they think spends too much time discussing personal problems — and consequently, threatens company productivity.

Obviously office culture plays a big part in the kind of chatter deemed appropriate, but while I'm sure there's a co-worker you might call out for sharing too much with you — tell me, have you ever been guilty of sharing too much at the office?