Bravo's Andy Cohen called out Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger last night on her reunion show. The affable host, who happens to be gay, asked Patti if the fallout over her previous comments about how all gay men are promiscuous — she said "there is no curbing the gay" — made her question whether she makes offensive generalizations. Patti agreed that she's a very "stereotypical" person and says "telling it like it is" is part of her "flavor." Yet she said the experience didn't make her think twice about doing it. Patti said she went to temple and thought about it during a trip to Florida, explaining: "I went on the beach and kind of talked to God and I said 'Should I stop being me?' And the voice came to me and said, 'No.'" Watch Patti possibly make the controversy worse below.
Patti Stanger was back on Bravo last night to introduce her new batch of eccentric singles for season five of The Millionaire Matchmaker. Viewers had the pleasure of meeting "multiple personality" Gary and photographer Michael, who treated the date like an episode of America's Next Top Model. Real winners.
We had a chance to chat with Patti Stanger about dating, romance, and her new DVD, Married in a Year, and she gave us her thoughts on celebrity love lives. In classic Patti style, she skipped the coat of sugar. "Who do they meet? They're not going to date the cameraman. The only person who's done that is Julia Roberts, and she stole him from another man's wife. So it's like who do they really meet on a daily basis? They're meeting other actors, at the SAG Awards and the Oscars. It's like they're going to their high school reunion every year."
I already gave you Patti Stanger's — aka The Millionaire Matchmaker — relationship advice for celebrities, but now I have her diamonds of dating wisdom for you. At least if you want to get married in the next year!
Actually, her advice could be applied to anyone dating or in a relationship, but her new DVD Married in a Year sets the rules for any woman hoping to walk down the aisle next Spring. It's mix of her trademark no-nonsense, old-fashioned values, and healthy setting of boundaries.
The interview opens when we were discussing what she calls a crisis of masculinity in America, and she had just told me parents need to start raising boys to be chivalrous and go after what they want. Since we're not looking to date 8-year-olds, I asked what that meant for women today.
TrèsSugar: Are women a lost dating generation now?
Patti: Women have become the men and men have become the women, and now men are pissed that the women have become them. Well, too bad, you didn't step up. What am I supposed to do?
TS: What do you think about women making the first move?
Patti: I don't think it's a good idea for women to make the first move. I think what you have to do is signal the hunters you find in your area. There's not a lot of them, but there's at least one for everybody. And I think you have to take your time and get to know someone, and if you want to start as a friend then start as a friend. But if you make the first move, you set the precedent, and you don't want to set the precedent as the female; otherwise, you'll never get back the feminine energy.
TS: Are you saying women should make it easy for men to ask them out?
Patti: No, it's like presenting. All you're doing is presenting yourself. If you're his type then he's going to walk across the street and offer you a drink. You're not being aggressive about it; you're just presenting.
TS: How would you define presenting?
Patti: Show up, look good, smell good, sit back, relax, smile — signal. It's called a five-second flirt. You make eye contact and smile, but only for five seconds. It's in my DVD.
TS: What are the biggest mistakes you see single women making?
Find out below.
Tomorrow I'll be talking to Patti Stanger, the matchmaker (or sometimes mismatchmaker) behind Bravo's Millionaire Matchmaker. Of course when couples don't connect, it's usually because they don't take her advice. She calls it like it is, and and that's why we love her. So tell me below what you'd like me to ask Patti (the more general, the better), and I'll do my best!
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After WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange's online dating profile came out last month, we took the opportunity to play matchmaker by suggesting that he hook up with international woman of mystery and Russian spy Anna Chapman. Well Esquire just got a professional, Bravo's Patti Stanger, to analyze Assange's profile. They kept things interesting by not revealing whom the profile belonged to until the end.
Some of Patti's best quotes:
- On Assange's assertion that he's "not the droid you're looking for": "You know, he's got a little bit of an ego and arrogance to him — I'll give you that. He's going to deter all good-quality women away — he's going to attract the diva-drama bitches."
- On his desire to date women from countries with political turmoil: "Okay, this is the most bitter man alive. This man is so bitter. It's a one-size-fits-all for him; every woman is the same."
- On why he might be British (he's Australian): "Now, he might be an international dude, like you said, and he might be British. Usually the British are kind of nasty like this — I wouldn't give the Scottish and the Irish this, but the British are kind of nasty."
- On what his hatred for anything Russian says about him: "He wants a woman who will give him an opinion — but I bet you he'll hate her opinion."
- On what his profile says about his sex skills: "He'll make great love to you then tell you what's wrong with you. That's called 'seducing and reducing.'"
She may be outrageous, but we have to thank Patti for new terms like "seducing and reducing" at least!
Millionaire Matchmaker's Patti Stanger will be putting her dating rules and advice to good use — for her own love life, after recently announcing her breakup to real estate executive Andy Friedman via Twitter, saying:
"I just ended my relationship with Andy. It hit me really hard that I want kids in my life. You have to agree on the non-negotiables."
It seems pretty crazy to me after being together five and a half years that such a deal breaker wouldn't come up 'till this late in the game. But in her interview with Us magazine, it sounds like maybe he had wanted kids, and maybe she didn't, and then they both changed their minds?
Have you ever been in a similar situation where it really came down to that one super-important issue (or issues) that ended the relationship? What are your non-negotiables? Share your story in the comments!
"Successful men don't date up. They are intimidated by wealthy women unless they are blue bloods. Successful men want to always take care of their women, and that means financially."
— Millionaire matchmaker Patti Stanger, a successful woman in her own right, tells the Wall Street Journal that well-off men don't want to date wealthy women, unless the women inherited that money of course. She might know a certain brand of millionaires, but I'm not buying the idea that every rich dude finds successful women intimidating.
As matchmaker to millionaires worldwide, Patti Stanger is pretty well-equipped to tackle even the toughest dating dilemmas. She knows a thing or two when it comes to good old-fashioned matchmaking, founding her own Millionaire's Club as a third-generation relationship guru. I'm not doubting Patti's natural gifts, but I couldn't help but wonder how she might benefit from getting wired with the right (tech) stuff to give her a leg up on the love game.
"Think of that $200 every six weeks (to highlight hair) as, like, an investment in your man future . . . you should always have a little fund that you play with, on the side, and you say, I am not going to spend this weekend buying five drinks at the bar this weekend at $15 a pop. You can always get men to buy you drinks."
Or you could just go to a cheaper bar? Millionaire Matchmaker's Patti Stanger tells Daily Beast writer Emily Gould (an apparent "six" sans highlights) that she can't just roll out of bed in the morning and expect a gorgeous guy to look at her. After all, Stanger says, "An eight can be with a 10, but that 10 isn't going to be with a six."
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On this week's Millionaire Matchmaker I got a geeky surprise — Patti talked about Comic-Con, electronics shows, and referenced gadgets. . . Oh my! In her quest to assist the single ladies (and men) of the world, Patti advises that the women in her club go to gadget events in order to meet guys. "Men who have money like to have toys," she says. You can watch the entire clip below. . . And one more piece of dating advice from this geek — the Apple store is great for picking up guys!