Office Romance

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Brilliant or Baffling: Signing Love Contracts at Work

Many people meet their significant others through work, and although it's great when it works out, it can also be really bad if it doesn't.


Many people meet their significant others through work, and although it's great when it works out, it can also be really bad if it doesn't. So what's a company to do to prevent these love liabilities from happening? Well, by drafting a "Love Contract," of course! More and more companies are requiring dating employees to sign a contract that states the relationship is consensual and not harassment. Jezebel featured a snippet of what a sample contract looks like:

(Name) and (Name) have notified the company that they entered into a consensual relationship on or about (date), and said relationship continues to this date. In addition, they have notified the Company of their marriage plans. Both acknowledge that their relationship has been and is completely welcome and consensual. (Name) and (Name) further acknowledge that they believe this consensual relationship was not and is not harassment, sexual or otherwise, nor was it in violation of any federal, state, or local law, regulation, or ordinance.

I definitely see what the benefits of having the contract are for the company, but I'm not sure if it helps the couple in any way. What do you think — is this a brilliant or baffling move?

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The Pros and Cons of Office Romance

Dating a co-worker can be a thrilling and wonderful thing — that is until the relationship falters.


Dating a co-worker can be a thrilling and wonderful thing — that is until the relationship falters. Here are seven pros and cons of dating (and breaking up with) a co-worker so you know what to expect before you decide to get involved.

Pro: Forbidden love can be hot and passionate.
Con: You might have to keep your relationship a secret from co-workers. If the office does find out, it can quickly turn into a awkward situation, and if you do eventually break up, it can become even more unpleasant and humiliating.

Pro: You have an insider's understanding of their work ethic and how they communicate with others. You can talk openly and honestly about current projects or co-workers.
Con: You might not agree with their business decisions or attitude towards co-workers.

Pro: You have the rare opportunity to see each other when you are the most energetic, motivated, and sharp.
Con: If you get in a fight or break up, you'll have to conceal your personal feelings toward one another at the office.

Read on for more pros and cons.

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What Movies Can Teach Us About Dating a Co-Worker

Office relationships can be tricky, but we've learned valuable dos and don'ts from some of our favorite films.
(500) Days of Summer

Office relationships can be tricky, but we've learned valuable dos and don'ts from some of our favorite films. A workplace fling can trigger competition, resentment, or jealousy — not to mention an extremely messy breakup. But when a 9 to 5 romance goes right, the happily ever after is extra sweet. Click through the slideshow to see what movies have taught us about dating a co-worker, plus our own advice for how to make it work.

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Savvy Confessions: I Have a Crush on My Boss

This anonymous poster in our Savvy Confessions group wants to know how she can let her boss know she's interested in him.

This anonymous poster in our Savvy Confessions group wants to know how she can let her boss know she's interested in him. Chime in with your thoughts below.

Okay, so I have a crush on my boss. He is NOT married. I really want to see if he's interested in . . . anything really. What do y'all think I should do? How do I subtly let him know I am interested without getting myself in trouble if he is not . . .

Crazy, I know.

Share your own career- and finance-related questions anonymously in the Savvy Confessions group for a chance to be featured on SavvySugar and advised by fellow Savvy readers.

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23 Celeb Couples Who Fell in Love on Set

Even though it's common for Hollywood costars to become romantically involved on set, it's still considered hot gossip and a little taboo.
Hollywood Couples Who Met On Set

Even though it's common for Hollywood costars to become romantically involved on set, it's still considered hot gossip and a little taboo. Office romance sometimes leads to a long-term relationship or marriage, but, usually, it ends in an awkward and messy breakup. Check out these hot Hollywood couples (some still together, some not) that met at their workplace.

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5 Warning Signs That a Professional Contact Is Interested in You

Although relationships often bloom in the workplace, sometimes the attention from those who are interested in you is unwanted and uncomfortable.

Although relationships often bloom in the workplace, sometimes the attention from those who are interested in you is unwanted and uncomfortable. A good way to avoid these romantic entanglements is to stop it before it goes any further. I can't tell you how many times my girlfriends have had to deal with this, and although some are skilled at dodging these awkward situations, there are some that don't realize it until the later stages. Not dealing immediately with the issue can lead to a lot of embarrassment for the other party and possibly disrupting your career if he's your supervisor or an important client. Here are some ways to tell if a professional contact is eyeing you as a love prospect:

  • Your gut is telling you. Your gut is the best indicator of whether his attention towards you is getting a little inappropriate. If something feels off to you, there usually is something wrong with the situation. Listen to yourself and if you're still uncertain, talk to friends about what you're feeling to see what kind of feedback they'll give you.
  • Asking you to meet up too many times. My friend was telling me about someone she works with who keeps asking her out for lunch and trying to make their appointment last as long as he can. This sometimes signifies that he has more than a professional interest in you.
  • Praising qualities that are irrelevant to your work. Telling you that you're attractive or mentioning that you must get a lot of dates can be a sign that he's into you. After all, this is very personal information, and he might be trying to test the waters before pulling more obvious moves on you.
  • Divulging too much personal information. If you start hearing really private stories or information, he's probably attempting to connect with you on a more personal level, which can mean that he's trying to inch towards starting some sort of relationship with you.
  • Complaining about love life. Be wary. Some men don't let their relationship status get in the way of chasing prospects so don't let his married or serious relationship state lull you into a sense of security. If he starts confiding in you about his love life, you need to be on guard, particularly if what he has to say about his partner is negative.

These are just some general warning signs and aren't by any means surefire ways of detecting your contact's interest. Have you ever had to deal with a work pal hitting on you — how did you resolve the situation?

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Iffy Dating Prospects: Go For It or Off-Limits?

There are always people in our lives who because of their position or relationships make them a complicated dating prospect.
Forbidden Love and Dating Advice

There are always people in our lives who because of their position or relationships make them a complicated dating prospect. These can be people in authority positions, people we live or work with, or people who've been in past relationships with our friends and family. These potential love interests fall into that gray area, where you're not crossing any ethical or legal boundaries, but there could be uncomfortable ramifications if things go south. I want to know, when it comes to getting romantically involved with these questionable guys, when it is OK to go for it and when are they off-limits?

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The Office: All About Romance at the Workplace

There was a lot of lip smacking between Michael and Holly on last night's episode of The Office, and as we all know, too much PDA is always a big professional no-no.

There was a lot of lip smacking between Michael and Holly on last night's episode of The Office, and as we all know, too much PDA is always a big professional no-no. However, 60 percent of you think that relationships at the workplace are acceptable. It also likely depends on how you conduct yourself in public with your office sweetheart. If you're thinking of embarking on an office romance, you might be interested in these results from a Match.com survey:

  • 36 percent would consider dating a co-worker, but 12 percent of respondents have dated their colleague in the last five years.
  • The majority of relationships that surface from work last less than three months.
  • More than half of the people polled said that the breaking up didn't affect their professional relationship.
  • Six percent of people admitted to dating their bosses.

What do you think of the research — are you surprised by the findings?

Photo courtesy of NBC

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Would You Engage in an Office Romance?

We see office romances on TV all the time, on shows like The Office and Mad Men.

We see office romances on TV all the time, on shows like The Office and Mad Men. I have friends who met their significant others through work, but I've personally never met a special someone on the job. Are you open to office romance or is this a big no-no for you?