Instant Gratification

dating and technology

3 Ways Instant-Gratification Culture Is Ruining Relationships

I once read the secret of staying together is staying together.

I once read the secret of staying together is staying together. But is it that easy (or hard)?

Marriage used to be a lot easier to arrange — especially if done for you! — but now the longer people wait the more of a decision it becomes. Maybe they know what they want and have less patience for what they don't, but can it go too far? So many relationships speed off from the gate only to crash at the sixth-month line. Of course, every situation is unique, but here are three times when we may be giving up too soon.

  • Jumping in too fast: People in love with the idea of love are always looking for that high. And as soon as it's gone, so are they. This is especially common among serial monogamists and, I may be biased, men.

  • Big ponds: This is especially true if you live in a city, but even if you don't the Internet makes our dating options endless. There's always some perfect imaginary person around the next corner.
  • Great expectations: People expect relationships to just work if they're right, and when they don't we may hear, "It's not supposed to be that hard."

But, how hard is too hard? What even separates the good relationships from the bad?

fashion week

Instant Gratification: United Bamboo Spring 08

It wouldn't be any fun if we stuck with cardinal rule of only covering the season most recently shown during fashion week.
Instant Gratification: United Bamboo Spring 08

It wouldn't be any fun if we stuck with cardinal rule of only covering the season most recently shown during fashion week. That is, we think there's value in all kinds of fashion coverage, and we think our readers can navigate the differences. Yes, the United Bamboo Spring 08 collection was shown during New York fashion week last September, but now you can finally wear it and no matter how closely you follow fashion, everyone can agree that immediacy is a treat that's occasionally nice to indulge in. This Coutorture video, taken from the Unted Bamboo show, has us really excited for Summer. United Bamboo, known for it's structural details, showed a softer side for Spring 08 that kept to nudes and basic, preppy garments. This (though it never stuns the crowds at fashion week) is the reason the brand is so coveted by downtown artists and fashionistas. Something about its sense of architecture and origami, combined with a slightly American version of prep-school chic, make for a range that feels effortlessly cool season after season.

Links:
United Bamboo Spring 08 photo gallery
United Bamboo Spring 08 video
United Bamboo Fall 08 video