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I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. We went through our rough patch last summer (almost a year ago); he told me he wanted a break because we were fighting a lot, and as any girl would, I had to make sure it wasn't because of another woman, and he assured me it wasn't.
Although it was a really hard time for me, we got through it and have really improved our relationship. I'm really happy, and we planned to move in together in Aug. Yesterday he left his ipod at my house, which gave me access to his email. I looked through it and didn't find anything in the inbox, but when I went to sent, he forgot to delete a few from a girl co-worker. A lot of them were sent when he was under the influence, but some were replied to when he was sober. The emails were disgusting; they made my stomach turn. He called her the names he called me, and I just couldn't believe the sexual things he said to her; I'm still in a state of shock.
I immediately called him at work and told him it was over and told him I found the emails from the girl (then he told me she was just a friend and helped him get through the breakup last summer). I love him beyond belief and still can't believe he did this to me; he's devastated. The emails were sent a few weeks before he broke up with me, and he told me it was just a time in our relationship where he wasn't feeling wanted anymore, which is understandable — we all go through that especially after 2 1/2 years together, so I partially blame myself for it leading to this. He says it never ever went past email, and they never physically hooked up. He said after we took our break he realized that girl was nothing but an object, which I completely understand because I have also been in his position. But I just can't get over the words he said. I wish I would've never ever opened the email, but I had to know.
I never thought this would happened to me, and now the ball is in my court, and I don't know what to do with it. He says if I forgive him, he would spend the rest of his life making it up to me, but I just don't know. Do I let the guy I love go over something like this, or do I forgive him and try to move past it?
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