Lots of women have ideas about the kids they will raise, only to give birth and realize some things aren't up to them. A recent news report focused on Peter Leonforte, a bricklayer, and his son Andrew Leonforte, a singer. It's not uncommon for parents and their children to have opposite interests and personalities. While some moms and dads keep an open mind and encourage their kids despite the differences (even of opinion), other parents try to mold their offspring (sometimes subconsciously) into what they want them to be. Which is your style?
A few weeks ago I was offering some solicited career advice to a good friend, who is five years into working at her dream firm but routinely suspects her efforts are being ignored by her manager. While she is quick to complain to friends and family (heck, aren't we all?), we ended our conversation with her realizing she needs to initiate a careful conversation about her concerns with her manager or else continue to suffer in silence. The notion of taking personal responsibility for professional happiness and success is echoed in a recent New York Times piece. The interviewee, a successful businessman, noted:
If you’re in a difficult situation, you have to make something happen rather than sit back and feel sorry for yourself.
When you are bummed about a career setback or stump, do you "make it happen" for yourself, or do you wait for your manager or circumstances to change?
One of my best gal pals recently proclaimed she was taking a last-minute trip to Morocco on her lonesome to de-stress. She's adventurous and independent so it was no shock to my ears, but I found myself wondering if I could pull off a solo trip halfway across the world. I've traveled for work alone in the past, but I've never taken an extended vacation by myself.
April's Self has a neat guide to picking the right solo destination, whether it be an escape to city life, the beach, adventure, or self reflection. While I adore traveling with my honey, family, and friends I now can't stop thinking about exploring Berlin with my camera and a few guidebooks. Have you ever jetted away on a "me-time" vacation? If so, where did you go and what was it like?
I liken newborns to birds because they often mimic their behavior at birth. As the mama bird, I feel it is my duty to give my lil chippers their wings to fly so they can become positive members of our society. A sense of independence gives a child confidence to conquer the world with a smile on his or her face. Instilling that virtue in a youngster is one of the best gifts a parent can give their offspring. No matter the parenting style, there are some simple daily steps that can be taken to foster a tot's independence.
- When the child starts eating solid foods, allow them to feed themselves even if the floor becomes a Jackson Pollack masterpiece. What are mops and dust busters for?
- Speaking of art, hand over the finger paints. Kids love to create something from nothing. If paints are too messy, try the bathtub version.
- Let them be their own stylist. People may stare at your wee one's wardrobe choice and question mama's visual awareness, but babies get a kick out of dressing themselves. A trip to the grocery store as a Kung Fu fighter may give the tyke that needed boost.
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DearSugar and Searching Sandra need your help. While in a five-year relationship, she lost track of the person she is and the woman she wants to become. Now that she and her boyfriend have split up, she wants to find herself, but she doesn't know how. Do you have any advice for her?
My on-again, off-again boyfriend of five years broke up with me a few days ago. We’d had the same problems since the beginning of our relationship and we knew they were never going to get better — we just weren't right for each other. Part of the problem was instead of growing with him, I depended on him for happiness and didn’t bother to discover who I really was. I was never truly satisfied because I didn't know what I really wanted out of life. I know that only I can make myself truly happy, but I just don’t know how to get there. So my question is, how do you get to know yourself? What should I do to get the clarity I need to move on with my life as an independent woman? — Searching Sandra
Although being independent is great, if you happen to have a stubborn streak, your determination may hinder you from reaching out for help when you need it. For whatever reason, asking for help has become synonymous with not being tough enough, but I’ll be the first to say, that’s just not true. So if you’re one of those girls who has to do everything herself, read my tips for how to reach out for help when you really do need it when you read more
Some women prefer company while others prefer solitude, but being around people isn't the only thing that defines a woman's independence. In fact, independence has a lot more to do with a woman's attitude then anything else so let's find out if you need to start working on stretching those wings.
I just graduated from high school this past May and am currently living from home, but since then, I feel like everything has gone downhill. Most of my friends have moved away to go to school and I still live at home. I attend an amazing university, but still, I can't help but feel depressed. I feel like I don’t even know who I am anymore. I'm not happy with what I’m doing with my life.
I just ended things with this guy who was extremely controlling and every other relationship I have been in has been just as bad and I feel like it’s me that’s causing it. I feel like I need a new change of pace. There is nothing here for me anymore.
I want to leave, but I love my family to death and the thought of leaving them and everything I know behind just breaks my heart. But at the same time, I just feel like the only way for me to move on with my life is to get away from all the things that are making me unhappy. Please help!
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When you're in a relationship, do you like to do everything with your significant other? Do you like to exercise with him, go shopping with him, even sun bathe with him? Or do you like to be more independent -- would you rather come home at the end of the day with stories for him or surprise him with that new top you bought? Different strokes for different folks, so ladies tell me, do you like the constant closeness with your mate or do you prefer a little breathing room?