Like with sports or a new job, people can only improve sexual skills with practice and a helpful coach.
Like with sports or a new job, people can only improve sexual skills with practice and a helpful coach. Dr. Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
, says that the key to helping your man become a better lover is "encouraging and enticing him to go beyond his current repertoire." So how do you do that? Dr. Kerner offers specifics to try, along with tips on how to introduce them into your sex life:
Play as a Team: "Sure you may take turns pleasuring one another, but overall the goal is a mutual experience and shared pleasure that connects you as a couple. So, it’s critical you make sure he feels encouraged and not like he’s fulfilling a task. Consider your body language when he does things you like – do you moan, let out a giggle, arch your back, and set off other signs to tell him he's on the right track? Tell him too when he’s doing something you like. Positive messages need to be reinforced both mentally and physically — so when something feels good, let him know with your body and your words, and the same thing applies when something could feel better."
Play Tour Guide: "Body language and bedroom talk can help, but some guys need turn-by-turn directions, so don’t be afraid to show him the way. Find playful and erotic ways to show, even instruct him a little. You can guide his hands around your body, highlighting how you like to be touched on your more sensitive areas. Don’t stop there — do the same by showing where and how you like him to kiss or lick, or to use the 'toys' you keep in your nightstand. And keep in mind, it’s not just what you do, or where you do it, but also when you do it. The more aroused a guy is the more his body, and yours for that matter, is going to respond to more intense types of touch and stimulation."
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