With Christmas behind us and New Year's Eve on the horizon, hopefully, you and your partner can catch some downtime this week. Sexual health expert Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, who recently authored the Seasons of Love ebook, told me that despite the distractions and stress, couples can avoid fights and feelings of distance during this time of year. Here are three common holiday pitfalls she shared with me, as well as tips for steering clear of them.
- Feeling too unhealthy for intimacy. "With all of the holiday goodies that are, no doubt, in abundance during this time of the year, it is difficult for anyone to abide by a healthy diet," Dr. Hutcherson concedes. And unfortunately, cookies and eggnog can lead to sluggishness that may turn couples off to intimacy, she explains. "Instead of allowing yourself to give into the power of sweets, make sure to stick to the old adage 'everything in moderation,' ensuring that you will to stay in good spirits and good shape."
- Neglecting each other. "The holidays are all about spending quality time with your loved ones, yet we often forget about the loved one who we see most often," says Dr. Hutcherson. "If you are hosting family from out of town, or visiting relatives elsewhere, be sure that your partner doesn’t feel neglected by interacting with your him, on an intimate level." Some tips to help: flirting, touching, and connecting sexually. "A great trick, make a point to hug each other at least three times a day, for at least 30 seconds each time," she suggests.
- Money worries. "Harping about the financial toll of the holidays is often a pitfall that claims many people during the Winter months." Dr. Hutcherson points out. She says keeping the lines of communication open is key. "Discussing the pesky issues that arise can help couples address them together, thus bringing partners closer together. Getting the perfect gift doesn’t necessarily mean a fancy watch or diamonds." Instead, she says, "invest time, as opposed to money, in your relationship."
Do you have any advice to add?