Engagement

You’ve said yes, slipped on the ring, and called your family and best friends to share the news. But come Monday morning, it’s time to tell the people you spend 40-plus hours a week with about your newly-engaged status.

Sharing the news with your closest work buddies is a no-brainer; they’ll be excited for you, and may even be invited to the wedding. But even co-workers you’re not close to will need to know at least the bare minimum about your impending nuptials. Getting married involves taking time off, leaving during the day for fittings and appointments, and often changing your name and address — all developments your co-workers and boss should be aware of.

• The size of your office: In a smaller office, it’s important that you fill everyone in on your news right away. If you only work with 10 people, and two of them find out a day later than everyone else, count on some hurt feelings.
• Your work environment: Is your office a small, tightly knit group that you regularly have drinks with after hours? Or a more formal, professional team that rarely discusses personal info? Let the vibe at work determine how you decide to announce your news.
• Any not-yet-engaged gals on your team: You shouldn’t pretend your engagement is no biggie just because your co-worker’s BF hasn’t popped the question yet. But if she’s been complaining for months about wishing he would just DO it already, you’ll want to be sensitive — make sure your excitement doesn’t turn into gloating or smugness.
• The length of your engagement: If you’re in for a quick engagement and your wedding date is already fast approaching, you’ll need to let your co-workers know ASAP. If your big day is a year or two away, it may be OK to take your time filling in more peripheral co-workers.
• How big of an impact the wedding will have on your job: Are you the manager of a large team, elbow-deep in a big project, or responsible for tasks no one else can do? If so, you might even want to consider giving your co-workers a rough time line for when you’ll be out, and keep them abreast of any time off you’ll be taking for appointments.

Britanny Hillard was knocked off her feet when her now-fiancé, Cameron Humfleet, asked her to marry him. The 20-year-old from Kentucky literally fainted when her boyfriend popped the question. Cameron had organized a double surprise, first gathering all of her friends for a birthday party and then bringing her to the event blindfolded. But, the real shocker came next. He got down on one knee, and she quickly dropped to the floor. Fifteen minutes later, Cameron proposed again, and Britanny was able to actually say yes. It was all caught on tape, so check out the latest viral marriage proposal below!

So apparently you can find more than sex at Occupy Wall Street — you can find love and marriage, too! The demonstration took part in its first marriage proposal, and although we've seen a lot of public proposals caught on camera, this one's pretty cute. To ask for his girlfriend's hand, the proposer uses the cause's "people's microphone," which was created out of necessity when electronic amplification was banned. It involves the speaker yelling out short phrases that are then repeated by the crowd. Watch the cute proposal now, and see how she responds to "will you occupy my life?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

Hey guys . . . need your help. I am 39, he is 42. We got engaged after 2 1/2 years. He is a bachelor at heart, so I had just mentioned that I would be moving on if things didn't progress. So he went to NY, got a ring (beautiful, I must say) made just for me. We got engaged x-mas eve.

Since that time he has pulled me away from me. The sex has now become almost nonexistent. He didn't seem happy about making wedding plans, though he did tell me to go ahead and do it. Finally in June I asked him if he was excited about the wedding. His response, "not really, no." And thus began a horribly awful time for me. We have been seeing the deacon at the church for pre-cana. And we have a wedding date. But he has not made any effort to look for a house, or frankly, spend any decent amount of time with me. We live apart, and honestly, never did really see each other too often to begin with. But at least he would spend at least one night a week with me.

And now sex . . . what sex? His interest in me has gone. He says it's the stress of it all. He's "on the fence" about kids, and he knows that with my age and all that I would want to try soon after we were married. My weight has gone up by maybe 5-7 pounds, but that's it.

Truly, he gave me a ring and now has pulled away. I know he's scared, and that I represent a huge life change, but really, automatic loss of sexual interest. I have taken my ring off, though I have not returned it yet. He has mentioned that he felt a bit pressured to give it to me, so I took it off and said he could put it on when and if he really meant it. Funny thing is, when he gave it to me it didn't seem like he was unhappy one bit. Gave me a beautiful card and signed it "your future husband."

What do I do guys, just let him go? Is this just all passive aggressiveness?

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