It's a sobering statistic: one in four women endures partner violence in her lifetime. To raise awareness of the issue, beauty brand Mark is launching a lipstick-and-compact gift set ($24). A solid 100 percent of the net proceeds go to M.powerment, an initiative that distributes grants to programs and organizations working to end dating abuse. A small purchase can go a long way: in the past four years, M.powerment has raised more than a million dollars to help end dating abuse. Brand ambassador Ashley Greene is also getting in on the action with a playlist of positive, empowering songs for women. (Turns out she likes Whitney Houston and Christina Aguilera.) If you or somebody you know is in an abusive relationship, there is help and support available through the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
For people fortunate enough not to have experienced relationship abuse, it's sometimes difficult to understand the threat. But any of us living in a community surely knows a woman, either at work, in our classes, or in our neighborhood, who has suffered abuse.
For Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I've gathered a collection of books that will help us understand. Reading can help increase our level of empathy and social understanding. And for survivors or victims of abuse, these books can provide some affirmation or hope.
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This week, a woman unwilling to settle shares her wisdom with a distraught woman who's sick of her boyfriend calling her cruel names. October is domestic violence awareness month. Remember, just because he's not punching you in the face doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. Verbal abuse is still abuse.
This week's question:
"Every time my boyfriend gets angry, I get called names. 'Bitch' is the most often one thrown at me. I have told him so many times that it hurts me but he says it's only words. Sometimes he doesn't even apologize. Yesterday, he told me a story about his friend. I told him that I had a headache. He started shouting and telling me that I just wasn't interested, that I was rude. I wanted him to shut up. He called me a bitch again! He always tells me that he would never call me anything if I didn't make him by behaving like an idiot. Once he called me pathetic. I told him I didn't like that and he said at least he didn't call me a bitch. I'm sick and tired of explaining how wrong he is. He thinks he knows better. Please help!"
To hear what a woman unwilling to settle thinks about this situation, read more