The popular Netflix series Orange Is the New Black (based on a memoir of the same name) centers around the love triangle between Piper, her fiancé, Larry, and her ex-girlfriend, Alex. The situation is further complicated by the fact that Piper is in prison with Alex for crimes they committed while together. But the series portrays the fluid sexuality of Piper in a progressive light. She loves Larry, but she loves Alex, too — and that's OK. It seems these days we're quick label someone as gay or straight, but bisexuality is still far from understood. Even Johnny Depp's girlfriend Amber Heard felt the need to defend her bisexuality recently.
We've had many bisexuality-related questions brought up in our Group Therapy community, and our helpful readers have been quick to share their words of wisdom on the topic. Click through the following questions for advice on everything from first same-sex crushes to coming out as bisexual to your significant other.
"I recently started seeing someone (of the opposite sex) and for the first time in years, it's actually going well. After years of questioning, I have recently come to the conclusion, through therapy and several 'ah-ha! moments' that I am bisexual. While this isn't really a problem for me personally, my boyfriend is very Catholic and very conservative. My question is how do I tell him, or should I?"
Reader advice: While I do think you have the right to privacy, I also think that he has the right to know. I don't think that your sexuality needs to be discussed on the first date, but it does need to be discussed before things get really serious. You do NOT want him to find out when you run into an ex together or a friend or family member mentions it inadvertently, because then it comes across as lying to him.