She's the Batman to your Robin, your coding confidant, and the one you turn to to watch late-night Star Wars marathons — she's your best friend. So, what do you give the girl who's always by your side? For starters, turn to your love for tech. From best friend iPhone cases to Instagram memories, there are plenty of geek-chic gifts to choose from. These 10 gifts are as equally quirky as they are stylish — everything that bonded you two in the first place!
Last night on Gossip Girl, best frenemies Blair and Serena face yet another challenge when they start college (for real this year). Blair, for once, is the popular one when she's accepted into the private, elite, and entirely made-up Hamilton Club at Columbia, while Serena finds herself on the wrong side of its ivy-covered walls.
Of course, Serena's well-connected mother works it all out in 42 minutes, but real life is not so easy. Friendships get divided by new boyfriends, new schools, and new friends, especially in college when private groups like sororities, sports teams, and time-consuming clubs are a major part of life. So what are we to do?
- Commit to making it work: Accept that you will both disappoint the other sooner or later, and understand it's not personal. If you both make an honest and concerted effort to keep plans (i.e. only cancel when you absolutely must) then there will be more trust and respect and less jealousy and paranoia.
- Have phone dates: Schedule a time that works for both of you, whether it's every day, once a week, or on a case-by-case basis. Keep it, even if you can only talk for a few minutes.
- See the friendship as an escape: No matter how much you love your new friends, it's nice to see old ones. You can get nostalgic, talk about people your new friends don't know, or vent about things you can't say to them.
- Integrate friends slowly: If you want an old friend to mix with new ones, do it slowly. Bring her to dinner with one or two friends, but don't bring her to a party immediately. It's much easier to get to know a few people than the whole gang.
- Accept that change isn't always bad: Staying friends doesn't have to mean keeping the friendship exactly the same. Talking less may sound like the worst thing now, but it rarely is in hindsight. You can drift apart, but still appreciate what you have together.
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When you meet someone and fall in love, you can't help but want to spend most of your free time with him or her. And when you spend that much time with one person, and share a unique intimacy you don't share with anyone else, they become the person you trust more than anyone else. All these qualities are what you'd find in a best friend, but should your lover also be your BFF?
In a recent Real Simple article, John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, said this about the question:
"I have no problem with partners who are best friends, but you should have other close friends to confide in as well — especially when you are having difficulties and need time away from your spouse. Don't put all your eggs in one basket."
I'm curious to hear your take on this issue. Do you agree with John Gray, that it's asking too much to have one person be both your life partner and your best friend? Or do you think your spouse should without a doubt wear both hats?
You and your closest friend have finally been fortunate enough to live in the same city for the past year, for the first time since high school. She moves around a lot and is always searching for the next best place. It’s been amazing having her around and your life feels full in a way you just can’t get from a boyfriend. But when she says she needs to meet you to talk, you’re instantly worried. Would it be worse if . . .
This: She’s decided to move again, but this time overseas? She doesn’t have a real game plan or know when she’ll be back. You hope it's successful, but it seems like she's just trying to escape.
Or . . .
That: It turns out she’s getting back together with her ex-boyfriend, the one she's taken years to get over? You want her to be happy, but not at the expense of her mental well-being.
There's nothing like a best friend! The importance of having someone you can turn to and trust without a moment of hesitancy is infinitely important in this hectic world. But the friendship that you have with a best friend is more than just the day-to-day stuff, it’s also about the memories you create with one another along the way. So let’s take a trip down memory lane and share the story of how you met your best friend!
You’ve been close with your best friend since you were kids, and you’ve witnessed her love life every step of the way. After a difficult end to a doomed engagement, she’s been having a hard time moving on.
Next thing you know she’s taken up with a man 20 years older than her. He spoils her rotten, and seems to care about her deeply. You know some people think that age is just a number, but something about their relationship dosen’t sit right with you — from what you know, it seems like he’s made a habit out of dating young women. Now she’s confiding in you that she sees herself marrying him, so how do you handle this?
Whenever a problem should arise in a relationship, communication is nearly always the best method to finding the solution, but is that true for friendships as well? Friendships aren’t meant to be a challenge, so it seems almost counterintuitive to assume that there will be issues you have to work through, but as we all know, stuff does come up even between the best of friends. So when it does, do you just take the hands-off approach and let things work out (or not) naturally? Or do you think it’s best to apply those communication skills to your friendships, too?
Today is National Friendship Day, so to celebrate, I want to take this opportunity to let you all talk about someone else — your best friend! As you all know, I've known mine since kindergarten, and she's actually become more like a sister to me. She's the first person I go to with anything because no matter what, I know she'll support me, listen to me, and offer a shoulder to cry on. She's also one of the few people that I never get sick of, and we can laugh about everything, or nothing at all, at any given moment. I feel very fortunate to have her in my life, and I know with certainty that we'll be best friends forever.
I'm sure each and every one of you has someone you call your best friend, so tell me about him or her! On this Friendship Day, what is it about your BFF that makes him or her so special to you?
Long-distance relationships are tough, but so are long-distance friendships! If you're lucky enough to have your best friend living in the same town, you probably get to see her pretty regularly. But it can be tough — and potentially expensive — when BFFs live halfway across the country or world. What's your situation?
One of the best parts about dating that special someone is that he or she is not only your lover but your friend, too. While maintaining pre-boyfriend friendships is important, some people aren't as eager since they feel like they have everything they need condensed into one person. I personally think there's a big difference between the relationships we have with our BFFs versus the ones we have with our significant others, but what's your stance on this issue? Do you consider your significant other your best friend?