Dear Sugar
I am a junior in college and I just found out I am pregnant. The father is a guy that I had a one night stand with. I am not a promiscuous girl and this was the first time I have ever been with a stranger. At the beginning of the night we exchanged phone numbers, and he seemed like someone I would want to go out with, but when we woke up it was really uncomfortable.
We shared an awkward glance and we didn't even really talk. Within five minutes of being awake, he quickly got dressed and he left without even so much as a warm goodbye. To be honest, I barely remember him. If not for the name and number on the crumpled up bar napkin that was in my jeans pocket, I may not even have remembered his name.
It has been three and a half weeks and he has not called me. I know I need to explore my options immediately as I certainly wasn't planning on this pregnancy. I obviously don't know this guy, but since I do have his phone number, is it my obligation to contact and consider him before I make a decision about this pregnancy on my own? One Night Stand Sophie
Dear Sugar
I work in a medium sized law firm and I absolutely can not stand a female co-worker of mine. She walks around the office like she owns the place and is rude to everyone around her. I am not alone in my feelings toward her either. Our company is very team oriented and this woman makes no effort whatsoever to jump in and help out when needed.
I recently found out through a friend of a friend at work that she has been having an affair with her boss who happens to be a partner at the firm. If this news were to leak, I am pretty sure that she would lose her job in a heart beat. I am sick of her bad attitude and belittling ways and I would love nothing more than to be rid of her. What should I do? Should I expose her secret and get her fired? Exploitative Ellen
Dear Sugar
I think I have fallen in love with a friend of mine; actually one of my best friends. We spend a lot of time together and I always feel great whenever I am with her. She is currently dating a new guy and I have been finding myself very jealous of him.
I feel a very deep connection with my girlfriend, and most of the time I associate it with our closeness, but sometimes I am catching myself liking her more than a friend. She seems to be really happy with her boyfriend but I can't deny my feelings. Do you think that I should talk to her about how I feel? Lustful Liza
High school reunions can either be exciting or filled with anxious anticipation and stress. If you look great, have a fantastic job, family, etc.. you've got nothing to worry about. You can go, be carefree and really enjoy your walk down memory lane.
However, what if you are the product of failure and lately you've been getting letters from Glamour Magazine apologizing for forgetting to place the black bar over your eyes after you have been on the pages of their "Fashion Don'ts" for the last three consecutive months? If that's you, you're probably going to want to add a little bit of jazz to your autobiography. But take caution.
Do you remember the movieRomy and Michelle's High School Reunion where one of the girls lies and claims that she invented the Post It note? Turns out she gets busted by the weird chick and is made to feel like an even bigger fool..now that's mortification.
My advice is to just be yourself, but we are all guilty of a little embellishment here and there to stroke our own egos. Looks like the old Peach Pit gang from Beverly Hills, 90210can't exaggerate even if they wanted to. Their lives are still so public. Damn they all look great though. I wonder why Brenda didn't show up?
Dear Sugar
My husband and I got married a year and a half ago and we are deeply in love, however, we’ve seem to have headed into unfamiliar territory and it’s upsetting to both of us. We used to fight infrequently, and lately all we do is bicker. I am saddened that there is this distance between us right now because I know how much we really do love and care for each other.
I need some help finding communication tools that will be useful for us. Lately, my husband has been telling me little white lies. They are small things such as telling me that he watched the game with his buddy, when in actuality he went to the game with his buddy.
Or, he'll tell me that he'll be home at 6 and then he will come home but then leave again for a dinner meeting. The latest and greatest was that he was going to a meeting with clients, but really he was meeting his clients at a casino to gamble. He claims they were doing business there. Hey, maybe they were, but that just isn't the same as the whole truth.
Like I said, these aren’t big lies, but why can't he just tell me what he's really doing? I feel like he’s thinks I am going to be upset so he just leaves out the details. If he only knew that omitting the full truth is what is really upsetting to me. Why doesn’t he want to talk to me anymore? We used to be best friends and I want to get that back. Also, do you think the lies are going to get bigger? Trust Me Trista
DEARSUGAR and Anal Annabelle need your help. Is it alright to confront someone who is oblivious to infringing on your personal space when you are both travelling on mass transit? They are really making your travel experience unpleasant, but they are total strangers. What do you think?
Dear Sugar
I have to travel often for work and so I’ve come to accept having to share close quarters with strangers on airplanes and trains. Most people are respectful of your personal space because they want you to be respectful of theirs; but every once and again you get stuck next to someone who has no concept whatsoever of common courtesy.
For example on my most recent travel adventure I was seated about an inch and a half away from a rather bulky, muscle-y guy on a seven hour flight who had no sense of spacial relations. He conveniently used both armrests, chewed and popped his gum loudly for hour stretches at a time, and listened to blaring music on his headphones. Even worse he sat with he legs parted so that they would often drift into my seat area and we would constantly and awkwardly skim each other’s thighs.
I definitely know that I have a low tolerance for people like this, but I was really going nuts. I was constantly checking my watch and the seven hour flight seemed like seventeen hours. What’s the protocol on public misconduct? Do I have the right to say something to him about his behavior or will it make me look like an over-anxious and irrational psycho? Anal Annabelle
Dear Sugar
I am hopelessly in love with an older man. His charm and witty sense of humor make him irresistible to me. All of the guys I have met that are my age are immature and indecisive. I feel like I've finally found someone I can relate to and who's on the same page as me.
The problem is that my parents aren't supportive of my decision to move in with him. He is a different religion than I am, he has two children and he is 22 years older than me. My parents didn't think our relationship would last, and now that we are moving in together they are panicked.
I am so sick of my parents bugging me about why I am with him. I happen to love him deeply; I love his children as my own and I am devoted to making us work. As close as I am with my parents, I am not going to let them break us up, however their incessant disdain is draining me. Is there anything I can do to convince them to accept my boyfriend? Determined Dita
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