You may have a vision of Tantric massage — gentle touching, nakedness, feathers, scented oils, silk sheets, and seductive Indian music playing in the background. You're not exactly far off, but there's much more to it than that. Tantric massage was created from the belief that if you're happy sexually, then you'll be healthy. This type of massage is meant to awaken Kundalini, a type of powerful healing energy. It has also been called erotic or sensual massage because it's been known to cause orgasms, but this isn't the goal, and it isn't supposed to involve sex at all. There's a lot of kneading and tickling of the entire body, but it's all in preparation to get the receiver ready for the attention you'll be paying to their special business. Don't think of this as weird, but more as a new kind of foreplay to try, a way to deepen the connection with your honey and to spark your sense of passion. So set aside an hour this week with a bottle of sandalwood-scented massage oil — what have you got to lose?

Dear's Advice: I recommend getting a book such as Tantric Massage: The Erotic Touch of Love ($12). It will help you better understand the massage techniques and concepts. I feel like there's really no wrong way to do it, and if you're wearing next to nothing with your loved one, then nothing but good can come out of it anyway!

"Race" hasn't been without its partner "card" much this election and the reason the subject has been taboo and arguable could be this: according to a new poll conducted by Stanford University, the percentage of voters who may reject Obama because of his race could easily outnumber the final difference between the candidates during the last election.

And the negative responders aren't all McCain Republicans, either. More than a third of white Democrats have negative views towards blacks calling them “lazy," “violent," and responsible for their own problems. The negative views could mean Obama's trouble with race is hurting his chances within his own party. Only 7 in 10 people who identify themselves as Democrats support an Obama presidency compared to the 85 percent of Republicans who support McCain.

The poll also found a trove of stark statistics in regard to opinions about race — to see what they are, read more

If you shake your head during Heidi and Spencer's scenes on The Hills, I can assure you that you're not alone. Though I'm pretty certain most of their antics are just for show, knowing that these two are together in real life makes me more than concerned. Is it just me or do they seem not to even like each other? Clearly they are both attracted to the drama of it all, but their constant bickering must be exhausting, not to mention annoying to be around. Since we all know that love can be blinding, tell me what advice you would give Heidi if you had the chance to knock some sense into her — or the character she plays?

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The group-effort, let's-have-everybody-host format at last night's Emmys isn't earning raves in the cold light of day, but the election can surely be counted as one of the stars, swiping at least as much stage time as some of the winners despite rumors of a ban. Behold as Stephen Colbert and Jon Stewart turn an innocent snack into a juicy metaphor for the political landscape.

Colbert said, “America needs prunes. It may not be a young, sexy plum. Granted, it's shriveled and at times hard to swallow. But this dried-up old prune has the experience we need.” He forgot that prunes also have, er, medicinal qualities. Perhaps we need those too?

Jon Stewart, whose Daily Show won last night for Outstanding Variety, Music, or Comedy series, also had this to say perhaps hinting that whoever wins this fall, the show and the funnies will go on: “I really look forward to the next administration whoever it is. I have nothing to follow that up with. I'm just saying I really look forward to the next administration whoever it is." Stewart and Colbert were gentle here, but the political opinions got much more heated as the night went on.

To see who invoked the bridge to nowhere, and other political winners, read more