All
  • All
  • Products
  • Articles
  • Videos
  • Galleries
  • Conversations
  • Social

If You Found Out You Were Pregnant Today, What Would You Do?

by 130

I am not ready to have a baby yet. I'm not married, and I believe, for me, that it takes two people to raise a baby, which is why I am so careful when it comes to using birth control properly.

Source

What about you? If you found out you were pregnant today, what would you do? Are you ready to be a mother?

Love And SexPregnantPollBabyAdoptionAbortion

130 Comments

DARiEN DARiEN
i think an abortion is HORRIBLE. & that the option to do so should be illegal. it's YOUR fault you got pregnant, not your unborn child's fault! don't take it out on them for something you did. and even if you don't want a child, at least give it up for adoption, just don't kill it. i think that's got to be one of the most horrible things a human being can do. just taking a life away, when you know darn well that the unborn child can't do anything about it. abortion is WRONG. don't do it! please.
DARiEN DARiEN
i think an abortion is HORRIBLE. & that the option to do so should be illegal. it's YOUR fault you got pregnant, not your unborn child's fault! don't take it out on them for something you did. and even if you don't want a child, at least give it up for adoption, just don't kill it. i think that's got to be one of the most horrible things a human being can do. just taking a life away, when you know darn well that the unborn child can't do anything about it. abortion is WRONG. don't do it! please.
anna_muffin anna_muffin
I would be scared as hell, but I would keep it. I love my boyfriend, we're planning to get married and we could manage financially.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore
This is why I believe in birth control pills so hopefully I wont have to make this decision... I am Pro-contraception... and pro-choice... but I would prefer if no on has to have an abortion... but if push came to shove... I'd have one b/c I'm 18 and in college.. I dont think my life has room for a child I can't take care of
Martini Rossi Martini Rossi
I would tell my finace, I know he would be so happy! I would be scared but I would keep it for sure! My parents would probably have a heart attack though.
Martini Rossi Martini Rossi
I would tell my finace, I know he would be so happy! I would be scared but I would keep it for sure!My parents would probably have a heart attack though.
Liz4aker Liz4aker
I'd have an abortion. I'm 22, not in a serious relationship, and just starting out in my career. I have a very well paying job, but I'm on the road sometimes 4 nights a week. I also know carrying to term and then giving the child up for adoption would seriously hurt my career. My company is very conservative and to advance in my career I'd have to change jobs.
grrlyrebel grrlyrebel
Also, in response to one of the earlier debates above, I would in no way compare a situation where a woman deciding whether or not to get an abortion with a woman deciding whether to get breast implants. Breast implants are superficial and rarely affect anyone but the person choosing to have the surgery. It's a self esteem booster, plain and simple.Abortions on the other hand often affect a plethora of people, perhaps most importantly the would-be mother and child. Isn't it possible that sometimes a mother choosing abortion isn't only thinking of herself, but about the child that she wouldn't be able provide for or be a healthy parent to? Not everyone has a parent to help them out. Not everyone has a supportive boyfriend or even a job. Not everyone is mentally stable enough to be a decent parent. I personally think it says a lot about someone who would be willing to have that social stigma placed on themselves in order to prevent bringing a child into the world to have an inevitably miserable existence.I'm not saying that we should feel sorry for these women, I just get irritated by the "Holier than Thou" attitude that some people take when they have no idea what it's like to live in poverty or have horrible parents who don't want them.
grrlyrebel grrlyrebel
Also, in response to one of the earlier debates above, I would in no way compare a situation where a woman deciding whether or not to get an abortion with a woman deciding whether to get breast implants. Breast implants are superficial and rarely affect anyone but the person choosing to have the surgery. It's a self esteem booster, plain and simple. Abortions on the other hand often affect a plethora of people, perhaps most importantly the would-be mother and child. Isn't it possible that sometimes a mother choosing abortion isn't only thinking of herself, but about the child that she wouldn't be able provide for or be a healthy parent to? Not everyone has a parent to help them out. Not everyone has a supportive boyfriend or even a job. Not everyone is mentally stable enough to be a decent parent. I personally think it says a lot about someone who would be willing to have that social stigma placed on themselves in order to prevent bringing a child into the world to have an inevitably miserable existence. I'm not saying that we should feel sorry for these women, I just get irritated by the "Holier than Thou" attitude that some people take when they have no idea what it's like to live in poverty or have horrible parents who don't want them.
grrlyrebel grrlyrebel
It's interesting to see that very few people would give the baby up for adoption...
sass317 sass317
After my husband and I started talking about getting married, but before we got engaged, we decided that if for some reason (despite the precautions we take) I were to get pregnant, that we would keep the baby and move up the wedding date. Once we knew we would spend the rest of our lives together, I could never have aborted our first child. We have a LOT of friends who have had children before they were ready and we were extra careful to make sure that it didnt happen to us. Now that we are married if I got pregnant it would be kind of a surprise, but a happy and welcome surprise.
fadeastride fadeastride
My boyfriend and I were talking about this today when we went to pick up my birth control pills. We both said abortion was our best option. 1)Because we've only been dating about 3 months and 2)because we'd like to finish school and be stable before we have kids with anyone.
UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian
No sex for me because I need a new gyno and more birth control pills! But if it happened, I would make adjustments in my life to accommodate having a baby, even if the timing is off.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld
Note to looseseal: I didn't say "you" tend to polarize, I said "we". As a society. I didn't mean it as a backhanded compliment or however you took it. Sorry!
BKNYGal BKNYGal
Wait a minute..are you kidding me about "why not 200 babies given up for adoption"? Have you seen the amount of children that are in adoption agencies in the U.S.? Not all of them get adopted and when some do, they end up in abusive homes. We have a huge problem in the U.S. with poverty and it's definitely not getting the attention it deserves. If you know that you can't take care of a baby financially and emotionally - what good will you do for that child to bring it into this f'd up world?
BKNYGal BKNYGal
IUD here..so it would be a huge surprise. I kind of want another one..but then I kind of don't (this world is in shambles) But if it happened, I'd keep it for sure. Then I'll get my tubes tied!!!
looseseal looseseal
Well and good that everything worked out in the end for some people, but when it doesn't work, it gets really ugly. It can be more responsible to abort. Just not doing anything and letting whatever happen can be very irresponsible. That's what it means to live in a world of gray areas. Even without any rape, incest or already present health problems, pregnancy does a number of a woman's body. This is not just some vain little "oh noes, there'll be stretch marks" whining. I'm talking about hormonal changes that affects the woman's health for the rest of her life. Nutrients sucked away from every part of her body, leaving her less healthy than she was before at best and with exciting new severe health problems at worst. This is why I fully support legal abortion and not just tolerate it like it's some kind of necessary "evil". People are entitled to other opinions, I'm well aware of that. This is just my not-so-humble little opinion. "So the woman would sustain a little damage. Big deal. The HUMAN LIFE inside her is PRECIOUS. She is only a vessel for this PRECIOUS HUMAN LIFE. She asked for this by having sex. We must supply the incubator with food and health care on account of the PRECIOUS HUMAN LIFE inside of it." That's the lack of compassion I'm talking about. Ceasing to see the woman as a human with a life of her own - no, no, she is now merely a container for PRECIOUS CARGO. Am I saying people need to treat women who had abortions with special kid gloves? No. Just accepting that they're human and it's not their sole purpose in life to be an incubator would be a BIG step. Is it all society's doing that people might feel bad about abortions? That's really hard to prove one way or the other, and I'm not trying to do so. I just don't think the "how can anyone make them feel bad when, by all rights, they should already be feeling bad" attitude is helpful at all. I have known women who are just immensely relived to have a safe, legal abortion available to them, and just annoyed that people expect them to feel really bad about it. As if it'd be more proper if they were sad. As if it's wrong to feel relief. To be glad. Ah, talk to me about being polarizing if I go around bombing "crisis pregnancy centers" (for those who don't know: these are pro-life centers disguised as abortion providers, meant to "counsel" women looking for an abortion into going through with the pregnancy). I'd be on the same level as the polarizing people amongst the pro-life set if I start tricking pregnant women who want children into getting abortions (which I most certainly do NOT do, haha). Says it all, doesn't it? When this, a little posting in a little comment board, is so unusually polarizing for a pro-choicer that it rates a mention? I thank you, that's actually kind of nice.
looseseal looseseal
Well and good that everything worked out in the end for some people, but when it doesn't work, it gets really ugly. It <i>can</i> be more responsible to abort. Just not doing anything and letting whatever happen can be very irresponsible. <i>That</i>'s what it means to live in a world of gray areas.Even without any rape, incest or already present health problems, pregnancy does a number of a woman's body. This is not just some vain little "oh noes, there'll be stretch marks" whining. I'm talking about hormonal changes that affects the woman's health for the rest of her life. Nutrients sucked away from every part of her body, leaving her less healthy than she was before at best and with exciting new severe health problems at worst.This is why I fully support legal abortion and not just tolerate it like it's some kind of necessary "evil". People are entitled to other opinions, I'm well aware of that. This is just my not-so-humble little opinion."So the woman would sustain a little damage. Big deal. The HUMAN LIFE inside her is PRECIOUS. She is only a vessel for this PRECIOUS HUMAN LIFE. She asked for this by having sex. We must supply the incubator with food and health care on account of the PRECIOUS HUMAN LIFE inside of it."<i>That</i>'s the lack of compassion I'm talking about. Ceasing to see the woman as a human with a life of her own - no, no, she is now merely a container for PRECIOUS CARGO. Am I saying people need to treat women who had abortions with special kid gloves? No. Just accepting that they're human and it's not their sole purpose in life to be an incubator would be a <i>BIG</i> step.Is it all society's doing that people might feel bad about abortions? That's really hard to prove one way or the other, and I'm not trying to do so. I just don't think the "how can anyone make them feel bad when, by all rights, they should already be feeling bad" attitude is helpful at all. I have known women who are just immensely relived to have a safe, legal abortion available to them, and just annoyed that people expect them to feel really bad about it. As if it'd be more proper if they were sad. As if it's <i>wrong</i> to feel relief. To be glad.Ah, talk to me about being polarizing if I go around bombing "crisis pregnancy centers" (for those who don't know: these are pro-life centers disguised as abortion providers, meant to "counsel" women looking for an abortion into going through with the pregnancy). I'd be on the same level as the polarizing people amongst the pro-life set if I start tricking pregnant women who want children into getting abortions (which I most certainly do NOT do, haha). Says it all, doesn't it? When <i>this</i>, a little posting in a little comment board, is so unusually polarizing for a pro-choicer that it rates a mention? I thank you, that's actually kind of nice.
PattyLauren PattyLauren
This really bothers me, but I know this is the way people are and what I say will not change minds. I really believe if you are an "adult", "responsible" enough, "mature", "independent", etc... and you are having sex, you should be prepared for those circumstances that can happen with it. Over 200 people clicked Abortion... Why not 200 babies given up for adoption to people who want your "accident", "inconvenience", "monkey wrench in my career"? A baby's heart starts beating at 9 weeks... I just don't see how so many people will not acknowledge that it's a human life, no matter how small or insignificant. Why is it so many believe only once it pops out... Oooh then it turns into a baby and not a fetus! Woo hoo... it's magic! I do feel compassion for the women who have had abortions, and instead of scorn they need to be loved and nurtured. What if our mother's had aborted us?
Linny Linny
i can't afford an abortion, much less a kid, so i don't know what I'd do. Probably make the abortion happen with more credit card debt. Does something here tell you I'm not ready for a child?
apinkpony apinkpony
Well... I'm 19. And a college student, full time. And I don't have a job (working on that piece). And my boyfriend is 20. And he has a job, but it doesn't pay that well, and he's in college too. So it would suck, but I love babies and he does too and we would like, work it out and make it happen I think. I would be so guilty to have an abortion and I would always wonder about him/her if I gave them away... so I don't think I could deal with either option.But it would really suck. But there would always be the upside of creating something perfect and beautiful.
apinkpony apinkpony
Well... I'm 19. And a college student, full time. And I don't have a job (working on that piece). And my boyfriend is 20. And he has a job, but it doesn't pay that well, and he's in college too. So it would suck, but I love babies and he does too and we would like, work it out and make it happen I think. I would be so guilty to have an abortion and I would always wonder about him/her if I gave them away... so I don't think I could deal with either option. But it would really suck. But there would always be the upside of creating something perfect and beautiful.
BETTYROCKETS BETTYROCKETS
oh. and to answer the poll question.. i would keep it even though itll be crazy hard.. full-time work full-time school and full-time mommty of TWO babies.. oh my goodness.... but hey she'll have a sister to play with... :baby:
BETTYROCKETS BETTYROCKETS
<b>oh. and to answer the poll question..i would keep it even though itll be crazy hard.. full-time work full-time schooland full-time mommty of TWO babies..oh my goodness.... but hey she'll have a sister to play with... :baby:
BETTYROCKETS BETTYROCKETS
looseseal & any others supporting abortion: you have your view points but with all due respect, i feel differently. i was pregnant at 17 straight outta high school. my boyfriend was in the army.. not even someone i considered a potenial husband. and i thought of having one..but i dont ever regret having her even when im broke, tired, overwheled.. im so glad i kept her. she is the most amazing person i know and my reason for living. so heres to yal: do you honestly think if you had a child that came from your body, your genes, with your features.. you wouldnt end up loving her or adjusting?? the reason why anyone would kept a child that at the time was unwanted is because they have hope and faith that things can work themselves out. if a baby comes into your life unexpected.. at the wrong time.. a busy time.. that just means life is gonna get a little bit tougher.. how can killing your child be a solution? i dont understand why adoption wouldnt be an option to give your child a chance at someone that does want her. people die to have a child.. and you would kill to not have one. i believe even with the situation of rape, a child can find his way into adoption. no one has to hear me out or take my advice to reconsider any thought of abortion but .. if you do have an abortion and then later have a child.. when you look at your childs smile and feel that happiness.. imagine her not being in your life.. i guarntee you cant.
Dear Poll: Do You Snoop?
Dear Poll: Do You Snoop?
Do, Dump, or Marry?
Do, Dump, or Marry?