I've been with my boyfriend for a year and half and everything has been great so far. I've been cheated on in the past but I think I've been doing really well not pressing too hard with my trust issues but the other day I came across my boyfriend's opened Facebook inbox. He had been messaging with a one-night stand he had before we met. The conversation was flirtatious and even though he's always been a very sweet boyfriend otherwise, I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if anything necessarily happened, but flirting online with another woman is just not OK in my book. I told myself I would never let myself get cheated on again but I have no idea how to approach him. Should I break up with him? Give him another chance? I'm so torn! — Online Banter Becky
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Dear Online Banter Becky,
Before jumping to any conclusions, I think you owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to get all the facts. I agree with you that flirting online with another woman is unacceptable, but is there a possibility you could have been reading the message out of context? Are you sure they just weren't being a little too friendly verses flirtatious? Was it a recent message?
Since your boyfriend has been nothing but trustworthy thus far, I suggest you calmly ask him to explain himself and let the conversation flow from there. Try not to be accusatory or he'll most likely act defensive. Of course you don't want to set yourself up to be cheated on again, but before breaking up with him hastily, make sure you have all the information you need to make the right decision. I wish I could tell whether to break up with him or give him another chance, but unfortunately only you can make that decision. The best advice I can offer you is to hear him out and follow your gut — good luck!