You Asked: I'm Terribly Homesick

Dear Sugar,

I moved from California to England to be with my husband. He said it would be a short term move, until we could get his Visa sorted out, but seven and a half years later, I'm still here with no light at the end of the tunnel. I am incredibly home sick and miss my family and friends terribly. The economy in both places is ruining our chance to move back and I know there is nothing we can do about it. I want a better life for our daughter and I know the best place for her is around her family in California. This isn't my husband's fault, but I'm starting to resent him for my unhappiness. I am feeling like there is no hope for me and I am destined to spend my life being unhappy about where I live. Help! — Homesick Holly

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Dear Homesick Holly,

I'm sorry to hear that you're unhappy living in England. It's definitely a different world than sunny California, but since you're going to be there for a little longer, I think it'd be best to just make the most of it. Since Spring/Summer is quickly approaching, could you make a few trips back home while your daughter is out of school? Or could you ask your friends and family to come out to England to visit you? Seeing a familiar face could really help lift your spirits.

I hear that you're homesick, but dwelling on it will only intensify those feelings, and being unhappy will just make it worse for your daughter. I advise you to talk to your husband, tell him how you feel, and see if you can't come up with some ways to make this living situation better for you. If you've made friends out there, try to strengthen those relationships, get involved in your community, go out and meet new people, explore your surroundings, or get a part-time job to keep you busy.

Yes, our economic state is making things difficult for everyone right now, but it won't last forever. I wish you luck and hope you can get home sooner rather than later.

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