You Asked: I Think My Mother-in-Law is Having an Affair!
Dear Sugar--
I have been married to my husband for a year and I love him more than anything. He is really close with his parents and he talks to his mother at least once a day. They live in the same town as us and we see each other about once a week for dinner, which is great because we all get along really well.
Last week, my husband's parents were planning on coming over for dinner, but just my father-in-law showed up. He said his wife wasn't feeling well, and just wanted to stay home and relax on the couch.
We started eating, but I felt bad that my mother-in-law was all alone, so I decided to drive over and bring her some dinner. Well when I got there, she was far from alone! As I walked up to the front door, I could see her sitting on the couch with some man I've never seen. He had his arm around her and they were talking.
I just turned and walked back to my car and went home. I haven't said a word to my husband but I can't get this out of my head. Who was he? What was he doing there? Is she having an affair? What should I do?
--Keeping a Secret Sandy
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Dear Keeping a Secret Sandy--
You are in quite the tight spot, and since you didn't outright see anything that would constitute an affair, you can't really assume that that's what was going on that night. Maybe this man is a neighbor or her husband's friend who just stopped by to say hi. I know it looks bad, but don't assume the worst, especially if this was an isolated incident.
Even though this involves your husband's parents, and you know he cares about them deeply, it's really none of your business if she is having an affair - it's a problem for her and her husband to deal with. If you do spill the beans and you turn out to be wrong, how embarrassing would that be! Even if by chance you are right about your mother-in-law, you are not the one who should be delivering this kind of news. So if I were you, as difficult as it may be, just stay out of it and keep this little secret to yourself.
