You Asked: I Think My Fiancé is Looking at Porn!

Dear Sugar--


My fiancé is being very secretive to me lately. He hasn't wanted me around him and is seeking extreme alone time. He has told me before he has a disgust for all things pornographic, but he is spending at least 30 to 50 minutes in the bathroom. He is constantly hiding his PSP (portable PlayStation) from me when he is online and I have checked it before but he deletes his browser history. Is he lying to me? If so how should I confront him about it without stirring up a large argument. His promise and "don't worry" attitude towards him looking at pornographic material is staring me in the face with a large question mark.

--Suspecting Susan

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Dear Suspecting Susan--

Your fiancé is either being secretive in a cute way (planning a sweet surprise for you, maybe possibly a wedding present) or he is doing something else that he obviously doesn't want you to know about.

If he says that he's not into porn, but you suspect he's looking at it, then maybe he's just embarrassed and doesn't want you know. Most guys look at porn, but some are ashamed because many women look down upon it, which could be why he is hiding it from you. I really wouldn't be too concerned with the actual porn (since I highly doubt he's looking at it on that tiny PSP screen anyway), but if I were you, I would definitely be annoyed that he's hiding something from you and not being honest when you ask him about it.

I'm also wondering about your sex life and whether or not this possible 30-50 minute porn viewing session in the bathroom is affecting you two. If it is, that's another red flag right there. If he's just having some alone time, that's totally normal and understandable, but if he's replacing your time together with his new bathroom time, then it's time for a little chat. I would encourage him to talk to you about what he's doing and let him know how much this secretive stuff is upsetting you. Relationships are all about trust, and since you are about to enter into a life-long commitment with this guy, you better get to the bottom of this sooner than later. Good luck Susan.

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