You Asked: He Called Out His Ex's Name During Phone Sex!!

You Asked: He Called Out His Ex's Name During Phone Sex!!

Dear Sugar--


My best friend of 5 years and I recently started going out. Before me, he was with another girl for 3 years but he has repeatedly told me that he doesn't have feelings for her anymore.

This morning, he and I were having phone sex and in the middle of it, he said her name! I hung up and he called me back, leaving 12 messages about how much he loves me and how sorry he was - begging me to pick up the phone.

I really really like this guy and he claims to care for me the same way but I don't know how to react to what happened. I told him I don't want him speaking to his ex ever again but I am worried about giving him an ultimatum. He claims they are only friends and she means nothing to him but I'm worried he'll pick her "friendship" over me. What should I do? I don't want to lose him but I don't want him to think he can do things like that! Should I give him another chance?

--Hurt Hannah

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Dear Hurt Hannah--

It's pretty obvious that your boyfriend is NOT over this ex girlfriend. Thinking about her while he's being intimate with you is not ok! I'm not sure why they broke up, but if it was her decision (which I assume it was), he could quite probably still be in love with her.

You can ask him to stop speaking to her, but will that guarantee that he stops thinking about her too? Probably not. The problem here is that his thoughts and feelings are out of your control. You're so worried about losing him, but to tell you the truth, is doesn't sound like his heart and mind is 100% with you right now anyway.

He needs some time alone to get his feelings straight. If he's really in love with this other girl, but he can't be with her, then you don't want to be his second choice. On the other hand, if after some time he realizes that he truly wants to be with you, then he'll naturally forget about that other girl. You deserve all of his attention and nothing less. I hope this helps.

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