Would you Tell?

It could be my midwest roots, but why even get married if you want to have a fling? I guess I'm old fashioned, but the thought of doing that is just awful to me. I'm all about having fun, but commitment is commitment in my opinion. This sounds so stuffy and judgmental-- maybe someone could help me out with a different perspective??

no luck, i think i'm of the same mindset, amity. with all the marriage posts in the past few weeks, i got to thinking about my own future/hypothetical wedding, and i wondered if i even would want a bachelor/-ette party...not only can't i stand the thought of me having a fling (and destroying my relationship in my opinion) but what in the world would i be thinking to let my boyfriend be tempted by strippers, etc. what if??? nope, unh-uh, no way. it's a good thing he told his mother we were going to elope (in an elvis chapel lol) i don't even want to think about it. i would be utterly devastated and probably become a hermit.

I agree with you both! If you have a fling, that means you should give back the ring. The end!

Interesting results so far!

I agree too, I chose other, because I wouldn't cheat to begin with!

I'm with the rest of you - How can you cheat on someone you love enough to marry?

Everyone has said exactly what I was going to say!

There is no way I could ever be unfaithful! While I do believe in forgiveness, I feel that cheating is completely disgusting. I am shocked by how many people who would not fess up. I wonder how those people would feel if they were cheated on.

I'm sorry maybe this is judgemental and prudish-- but tha is so gross to me how could you sit there witha ring on your finger and be with someone else.

I agree completely. I hate how the stippers at these parties is so accepted and almost expected. Whenever I get married, I want to spend my last night thinking about how much fun I'm going to have, just hanging out with my girlfriends. NOW shoving ones down a man-thong. (btw. worst invention ever? ew. If I want to see your goods, I'll... Don't put them on display)

There would be nothing to tell because i would never stoop that low......

Whew! I was kind of scared to open this up again. Glad there's no hate mail toward me. :) I love the Poppels!

My husband and I didn't have bachelor/bachelorette parties. We both were uncomfortable with the idea, so we had a pre-wedding hangout with close friends and family instead. I agree with those of the opinion that "why would you want to misbehave and have a fling if you're getting married?"

1 fling = 0 ring, in my opinion.

Rock! I've been quoted! Thanks, Dear! :) and I like Marci's math!

A fling before my wedding was not something I ever considered. And there are guys out there who are not interested in strippers. My husband is one of them. So, I trust him and have no problem with him going to a bachelor party where this goes on.

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You're suppose to be able to trust and be honest with the person you're marrying. What if it came out later in the marriage, what would happen then? It's better to be honest upfront with the person that loves you.

Someone would have to force himself on me for me to do that. I think whatever you do make sure you stick by your girlfriends. A kiss is absolutely okay but a full blown sex is a big NO. And if you had a quickie in a corridor then I think there is something isn't quite right about the wedding.

If it did happen I would personally tell. I might even call the wedding off myself. I think girls are pretty good at holding back though. I mean your girlfriends aren't meant to encourage you to do have sex! They should tell you to stop when you go too far. If they encourage you, well they are terrible people!

By the way it wouldn't bother me if my boyfriend kisses a hot babe on a dare at his party. As long as I don't find a phone number or funny texts on his mobile next week :)

I probably wont have a bachelor party, and if I did I wouldn't invite guys along or go somewhere there would be other guys. I am extremely faithful.

I wouldn't cheat period. Alcohol is no excuse for acting like a hoochie!

:ROTFL: I have not heard hoochie in such a long time...

if you want to sleep with someone else then you probably shouldn't be getting married!

agreed with kimmi. i would never cheat on him. and bachelorette parties are plain stupid. so are bachelor parties.