Would Your Feelings Be Hurt If He Forgot to Thank You?

February 23, 2009

It feels like one major star per awards show forgets to thank his or her significant other during the acceptance speech. While an acting win is based on performance and craft, giving thanks to the person who loves and supports you should just come naturally, if you ask me.

Last night, it was Sean Penn, who neglected to thank his wife, Robin Wright Penn, when he took the Oscar podium after winning Best Actor for Milk. I'm sure it wasn't an intentional blunder, but tell me ladies, would you have hurt feelings if it was your significant other up there forgetting to thank you, or would you chalk it up to nerves and excitement?

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a million suns 4 years 12 weeks

It depends on whether or not there was an understanding about it beforehand, like this one apparently. If we didn't have an understanding about it, then yes, I'd be hurt. But I can see why people leave their S/Os out of speeches; those awards are more about work life than personal life. So as long as there's an understanding about that...

pinaywriter 4 years 12 weeks

definitely.

opisnowpro 4 years 12 weeks

of course!

sandy82 4 years 12 weeks

He came on Oprah the next day and said he wanted to keep his thank yous professional. He said if he mentioned Robin, he would have had to mention his mom, son, daughter, etc. He said something along the lines of ..it goes without saying that Robin is his best friend.

Frank y Ava 4 years 12 weeks

Penn was too busy shaming people to thank his wife, but I understand it happens.

pharm_chick 4 years 12 weeks

i agree, it doesnt take forever to say thanks you robin/my wife/my love etc.. i would be kinda annoyed, esp since it waas the oscars, and if he won best actor and all...

Lukin 4 years 12 weeks

I saw that she asked him not to thank her so he would have time to talk about Proposition 8 and gay rights, which raised my opinion of her (not that it was low or anything) considerably. I think there is much more to their relationship than the public knows, regarding their frequent break-ups and make-ups. It obviously works for them, because they've stuck by one another for a long time. Sometimes I think they're more friends who just wanted to have kids together or something.

snarkypants 4 years 12 weeks

NO WAY! it's about him, not me. why would i care if he mentioned me? i'm not that full of myself.

Autumns_Elegy 4 years 12 weeks

I'd say "Oi! What about me?" after he finished getting whatever it was, and if he thanked me then then it would all be good. But if I got nothing whatsoever I maybe a wee bit peeved but it wouldn't be a huge deal.

iconoclastgrl11 4 years 12 weeks

Dump him! Somebody had to take that position.

allourregrets 4 years 12 weeks

i dont think its that big of a deal.....they BOTH said in an interview afterwards that he wanted to use the time to talk about gay rights. It was obvious that she was ok with it, so i dont know why we are even talking about it.

jazzytummy 4 years 12 weeks

Not enough time? How long does it take to say "Thank you, Robin"?

kristinamarie 4 years 12 weeks

Wow, I would be so upset. A wife has everything to do with his nomination and win, if they really love each other. She is the one he talks to about the role, what happened that day on set, etc. A marriage is like a team, when something great happens for one person, it happens for the other. Not thanking your wife in one of the most important acceptance speeches of your life is a complete disgrace. Why would he PLAN on not mentioning his wife? He mentioned his best friend and his support circle, yet "didn't have enough time to mention his wife." For me, this would be a sign that the love has run out and I should get out of the marriage. Sorry if anyone thinks I'm over reacting but that is my opinion. If, however, he didn't make a list before hand like SLB said, I would be able to forgive. I say, BOO TO YOU SEAN PENN!

RockAndRepublic 4 years 12 weeks

He didn't forget her. In a later interview, they asked him about it and he and his wife said they has talked about it and decided that there wasn't enough time.

Exactly! They said it on Access Hollywood.

0fashionqueen 4 years 12 weeks

I would never be anger if somebody forgot to thank me and he is still a human being we forget sometime. So, he is forgiven.

dm8bri 4 years 12 weeks

In showbiz, the spouse of a working actor can get the brunt of stress - whether it's dealing with them being gone on location constantly, or the rabid fans (especially of the "sex symbols"), or being their support system when their egos crash-land. For that reason, they should be mentioned in acceptance speeches. In this particular situation, I was more bothered by the fact that she had to grab him and pull him in for a congratulatory kiss.

ann418 4 years 12 weeks

He didn't forget her. In a later interview, they asked him about it and he and his wife said they has talked about it and decided that there wasn't enough time.

Meike 4 years 12 weeks

Thank you, "name, name, name, name, name, name" speeches (if they even can be called speeches) are boring. And, some of those name lists are so long it becomes a snooze-fest. I can also see the experience being so overwhelming for an actor that they'd accidentally leave someone important out because their mind is already thanking them before it formulates into words.

Marci 4 years 12 weeks

None of us have any idea what it feels like to be up there; what happens to the brain when you're suddenly walking up to collect an Oscar. It seems to be fairly common to forget to thank people, so I wouldn't be harsh, and I don't think it would bother me more than momentarily.

SLB 4 years 12 weeks

I would understand if they were coming with a list off the top of their head. But I am not surprised Sean Penn did this he is a very egotistical man who only cares about himself.

mamasitamalita 4 years 12 weeks

update: she knew he wasn't going to mention her: http://www.accesshollywood.com/sean-penn-explains-leaving-wife-out-of-oscar-victory-speech_article_14793

zcoral 4 years 12 weeks

I noticed her forgot her, and I also noticed he didn't kiss her or even look at her when he won, she had to grab him and try to kiss him, it was so awkward.

aka Daria 4 years 12 weeks

I am confused with the people who would actually be pissed. Why? Did she have anything to do with the movie? No, so that's his old lady, so what? Jus so you can say you got your name mentioned on TV? Many people deal with S/O schedules, they don't go in and announce into the intercoms after their shift "Thanks to my wife/husband who I'm about to go see...Big Ups!"

GScott86 4 years 12 weeks

Why wouldn't you first thank the people who are there for you at the end of the day no matter what? What excuse is there. "Thanks to my wife/husband, who as supported me through all of this (unless they didn't and were against it). Simple sentence. I guess he didn't want sex that night. XD

fantome14 4 years 12 weeks

How do we know that some Hollywood couples don't agree not to thank each other so they can have time to thank the people actually directly associated with the movie (and, in this case, make a political statement).

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