Women's Common Complaint: He's Bad at Oral Sex

My hubby says it's a little easier for him when I'm -- ahem -- groomed well down there. He says it's easier to see what he's doing. Sorry if that's TMI, but I have no complaints about his oral abilities, so maybe that will help someone who's not so great!

my boyfriend seems to be a natural when it comes to his oral abilities. From the very beginning, even though mine were the first 'lady parts' he had ever touched, he was phenomenal. I've since guided him on a few things, told him what I like when it comes to timing, meanings behind the little signals that I give, etc.

I think it's no good to have oral sex at all if you can't be vocal about what you like, what you dislike, and not get discouraged if you don't: a) get it right the first time, or b) don't get your partner off every time.

Great tips. All it takes is communication to get him to where you need him to be, literally and figuratively.

I'm lucky, my man loves to give oral sex. And perhaps it's from years of experience before meeting me, but he's fantastic at it. I just choose to believe he was born with a gift rather than he got it from experience. lol

haha, rpenner! I choose to believe the same ; )

to the first comment,
the post itself is pretty TMI so don't worry about that hahaha

I've never gotten a .... mm hmm.
I'm curious because I heard it's AMAZING. But I'm not forward enough to say that I want it. HAHA

any suggestions or stories?

Oh, man...Yeah, my boyfriend loves to give oral, too. We were both each other's first, and in the beginning, I was soo shy about letting a man be that close to me. I mean, I've never even had my face in my own privates! But...He read a book, then became amazing! HAHAHA. I guess that's dorky. Nowadays, we do a long session and count it as one of the sexy times for the day.

it's been 13 years. i've done everything you suggested (and waaaaaaay more than you could ever imagine), and i have finally had to wave the white flag and surrender. so that time of my life when i actually got some good oral is just going to be a verrrrrrrrrry distant memory! LOL!

if the guy is up by my clit it's always kind of been painful for me. no bueno. but down by my vajayjay then it's pleasure, but no luck getting the big one from that.

I have absolutely no complaints. My boyfriend is a natural and he loves doing it And if I ever find that something isn't working for me, we talk about it and we figure out how to make it more pleasurable together. Communication works wonders.

you forget the guy that's so defensive one cannot make a suggestion or else he gets mad...another post idea?!

If he really cares about pleasing you, he shouldn't get mad just by you letting him know how you like it. I wouldn't want my man to pretend, it would just insult me.

Here is what you do to guide your man toward pleasing your kitty with kisses.

First pick a time when you will have plenty of time with no interruptions. Example1: wake up Saturday after a nice time Friday, have breakfast, get showered, and then go back to bed. Example2: make plans for a dinner date movie together, and then "change" the plan on your whim at the last minute by saying you just want to skip straight to the snuggle time. Turn off those cell phones!!!

Dress with sexy undies if you like that. No undies can be sexy, but those special lace hipsters can be like a flag signaling him that you are ready to play. Footwear can be key! More on that later...

Telling him what you want before you get in position is key. While you are still hugging, kissing and caressing, tell him that your other BFs did not seem to be able to "light you on fire" for some reason, but that you would like him to try. This will kindle his competitive spirit....which is good, but you also need to set a somewhat lower expectation, so that even a little progress can be a base for further progress. Say that you have heard that some girls never really get there, but that you would like him to try and help you have a really mind blowing climax....you seem to be thinking about sex a bit more since you have been together, and you want to give it a try now....together.

More later.....

(Oh yeah....if you shave and wax already, fine. If you do not, don't start now, you don't want to risk the irritation....just trim up close before hand.)

More later....

manintheboat

Excellent way to put it maninboat. Im a man that never has any complaints from my wife in that or any other sexual department. it may be that i am (not to brag) well endowed. But i get conformation by my lips looking like a freshly glazed chocolate donut and her slipping into a comma after an intense hour or two of love making. She was the first person i ever kissed down there and it took some practice but she guided me through and now she is very satisfied. One question though. How do I get her to do me in return? She says she doesnt like it because im "too big" but none of my other past GFs seemed to mind.Let me know if anyone has any suggestions. I've been "dry" for 2 years now and its killing me.