Women's Rape Fantasy

The Misnomer of Women's "Rape Fantasy"

AskMen.com ranked rape as the third most popular sexual fantasy for women. "These female sex fantasies usually involve a gorgeous man carrying her off to his bedroom and quickly getting down to business," AskMen says. "She’ll protest as he tears her clothing off and expertly arouses her body, but on the inside, she’ll love every minute of it."

A "gorgeous man" suggests the woman has some kind of choice in the matter, which is hardly the case in real-life rape. Not to mention assault really brings out the worst in even the best-looking guys. But despite having condoms, safe words, and choice, the daydream of forced sex has been dubbed "rape fantasy."

A 2008 article in the Journal of Sex Research analyzed 20 studies on sexual fantasies in the last 30 years and estimated that not only do 31-57 percent of women have so-called rape fantasies, but they are frequent among 9-17 percent. It attributed fantasies to beliefs as negative as buying into male rape culture and as positive as having an open, healthy attitude toward sex.

Tracie Egan made her rape fantasy a reality by hiring a rookie prostitute off Craigslist and wrote about it for Vice magazine. "One Rape Please, to Go" is both a cautionary tale against hiring amateur prostitutes (he fell for her) and evidence that the "rape fantasy" is a misnomer.

When the rookie hooker wanted to "rape" her for free, she insisted on paying. The exchange of money, she said, was necessary to feel in control and comfortable. Even AskMen concedes in another female sexual-fantasy article (there are many) that the rape women fantasize about is consensual. Most likely, it says, women fantasize about someone who's attractive and won't harm them in the act. Sounds like the fantasies are less about rape and more about good sex!

Source: Flickr User Laura Oh Laura

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