My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half; I really love him and we generally have a great relationship, but we definitely have our share of ups and downs. The downs have mainly been due to fears and insecurities I have — it's my first really serious relationship seeing how I've been a life long commitment-phobe! — so feeling this vulnerable is overwhelming and scary for me at times.
Since the beginning of our relationship I have had dreams about my boyfriend that range from neutral (we're out with a bunch of friends but not really talking to each other) to terrible (he's with an ex or I'm cheating on him with someone else). I get the good one on occasion, but it's rare. These dreams really mess with my head! It's terrible when you wake up in the morning and that's the first thing you think about! It can throw me into a funk and get me ruminating on something all day to the point where I pick a fight with him about it later. Really unhealthy behavior. Aside from that, it also makes me really worried about where these feelings and fears are coming from, and if any of them are legitimate.
I should add that prior to this I usually didn't have dreams that I remembered — once a week, maybe. Now it's three to four times a week at least. And most focus on him or people I know through him. I was also never the person who had great dreams to begin with — no sitting on the beach drinking coronas in my REM cycle! They are always a little bizarre or action packed — just for some background.
So my question is: what does all of this mean? Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to stop it? I'm tired of waking up with a pit in my stomach and some nights I'm hesitant to fall asleep because of this! Thank you.