Not!

This is cheating, don't fool yourself. You are going out of your way to find people to do something that makes you feel good while you know it would hurt your husband and you don't care!

This is worse then married women who flirt with random people at random places b/c this isn't even a instant/natural reaction - you are doing it on purpose.

It's cheating - it crosses the line IMO. Just ask yourself how you would feel, or how your husband would feel if he knew! Try to bring your fantasy back into your intimacy with your husband - is there any way you two can act something out? At the very least, talk with him and see how open he is to doing something new.

you should never do anything that you wouldn't do in front of your significant other.

I agree with everyone else. I don't think you would like it if he was doing the same thing. You would be hurt and mad at him.

bad idea! not forgive!

This most definitely crosses the line. You might think this is harmless behavior because it's cyberspace, but if he was doing the same thing behind your back, how would you feel? Most likely betrayed and hurt. He's not a boyfriend...he's your HUSBAND for crying out loud.

You need to find another hobby.

"is talking to other men over the Internet forgivable?"

Sure -- if he says, "hi" and you return the friendliness, or if he asks a question and you answer him. You can converse and have friendly interactions, no problem. The word *friend* is key, though.

But cyber-cheating? Not cool, and also really scummy. Unfaithfulness has many forms. Do not deceive yourself into thinking that your secret habit is harmless.

Chasing wrote it well: "you should never do anything that you wouldn't do in front of your significant other."

Hear, hear!

Not forgive! Get offline and FIX YOUR MARRIAGE!

Try being on the other side. I've been there, and it's not pleasant. I don't care if it's not an actual physical person, but finding out someone you are in a committed relationship with is having a "virtual" relationship with someone really and truly hurts. Your husband would probably be devastated. How would you feel if he was more interested in random women on the internet than in you?

im with everyone else. cheating is cheating. ur getting "turned on" by these "strangers"?
do unto others as u would like done unto u.
im sure ud be devastated if ur husband was doing this.

Like others have said, if you can show the chat transcripts to your husband without fear of him being hurt and upset, then there isnt a problem. However, if theres no way in hell you'd ever be able to let your husband read a conversation you've had with one of these strangers, you know fully well that what you're doing is not excuseable and is undoubtedly wrong... and unforgiveable.

I say forgive, but only if you're willing to give up the chatrooms. I'm undecided on whether or not it's cheating--what kind of chats are they? Flirting? Or more than flirting? If it's more than friendliness, as others have said, then it's cheating.

I would say that since you didn't say what you are talking about but did mention you didn't know if it crosses the line as cheating that you are cheating.I mean if you have to ask you are certainly doing something that could be construed as inappropriate which means you are disrespecting your husband and your relationship all because you are selfish and need attention.

Who the hell goes to chat rooms anymore? I voted "not forgive" because it is still cheating and oh so pathetic.