True Confession — I Lied to Everyone About My Affair

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I had a nine-month affair with a married man when I was 19 years old and he was 29. This was five years ago. After the truth came out, I told everyone I had no idea he was married, but truth was I knew the whole time; I was just too selfish to end it. I feel sorry for the pain I caused his wife, but can I be forgiven for being so naive?

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keiraz keiraz
you were only 19 and hopefully learned ur lesson...the only one who'd probably NEVER forgive is the wife though
calli gurl calli gurl
ofcourse not! how could u have a thing with someone you KNOW is married? its different if u didnt know he was married. but u did. seriously, put ureself in his wife's position. how desperate can u be? i mean seriously! how slu**y can u be woman! 19 is so not young
calli gurl calli gurl
ofcourse not! how could u have a thing with someone you KNOW is married? its different if u didnt know he was married. but u did. seriously, put ureself in his wife's position. how desperate can u be? i mean seriously! how slu**y can u be woman!19 is so not young
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz
You should forgive yourself, but the act, is definetly not forgiveable. And even if you do forgive yourself, you won't ever forget it. You were naive but "19" has nothing to do with it, you were a big girl. Its not okay to sleep with married men. I couldn't imagine being "the other woman", its very sleazy. Anyway..forgive yourself, but karma is still a bitch.
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz
You should forgive yourself, but the act, is definetly not forgiveable. And even if you do forgive yourself, you won't ever forget it. You were naive but "19" has nothing to do with it, you were a big girl. Its not okay to sleep with married men. I couldn't imagine being "the other woman", its very sleazy. Anyway..forgive yourself, but karma is still a bitch.
alexask alexask
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19 is young, but it's not young enough to know how terrible that is. since it's in the past i would just forgive myself and move on though.
MissSushi MissSushi
i say not forgive, not that you should be sitting there in a pity party. you knew what you were doing, admitted you were selfish and just wanted what you wanted. Stop acting like YOURE the victim, come to terms with the fact that you probably helped destroy a marriage by knowingly having an affiar with a married man. it doesnt matter if he "would have ruined it with someone else" you knowingly went in and helped ruin peoples lives. its not an accident or a mistake, its a decision you weighed enough to acknowledge your selfishness and did anyway.
cherry peel cherry peel
Oh come on, you were 19, 19 is old enough to know that going with a guy who's married is wrong and disgusting. It's not like you only get morals once you get older, people use this excuse as often as they use the "I was drunk" excuse. However, like everyone has said, it happened, and as long as you've forgiven yourself then your free to move on.
cherry peel cherry peel
Oh come on, you were 19, 19 is old enough to know that going with a guy who's married is wrong and disgusting. It's not like you only get morals once you get older, people use this excuse as often as they use the "I was drunk" excuse. However, like everyone has said, it happened, and as long as you've forgiven yourself then your free to move on.
luckychick luckychick
Forgive, stop torturing yourself with guilt, and move on with your life. Just because a person made a mistake doesn't mean that they deserve to be miserable for the rest of their life.
meeshee meeshee
*it should be forgiven, not "but should be forgiven"
meeshee meeshee
forgive. i know many people hate cheaters... but i have been one before. it doesn't define who you are. it's a mistake you made, and although it's a horrible thing to do, but should be forgiven. also, from experience, the guilt will drive you mad... but you must think about who you hurt by telling. i've never had an affair, so i imagine if you tell, you could ruin the lives of the husband and his wife.. tricky situation
meeshee meeshee
forgive. i know many people hate cheaters... but i have been one before. it doesn't define who you are. it's a mistake you made, and although it's a horrible thing to do, but should be forgiven. also, from experience, the guilt will drive you mad... but you must think about who you hurt by telling. i've never had an affair, so i imagine if you tell, you could ruin the lives of the husband and his wife.. tricky situation
IdeaOfOrder IdeaOfOrder
Forgive.. It was in the past, she's not doing it anymore. She made a mistake and seems to be remorseful (hopefully learned her lesson). She shouldn't have lied to her friends/family about not knowing that he was married though. If the truth comes out, let the WHOLE truth come out.
nicole815 nicole815
Not forgive - it doesn't matter how many years it's been. 19 years old is plenty old enough to have a conscience. More importantly you need to learn to respect yourself enough in order to know that you are being totally used. Everyone deserves a loving partner and an already married partner certainly does not fit the mold. Hope you've done some work on yourself in the 5 years since...
Meike Meike
Sorry, not forgive. Maybe it's just me but even when I was eleven and in middle school I already knew it was wrong to be with someone who was taken. There really is no excuse if you knew. The guy was a cowardly dog who cheated on his wife. Why would anyone with enough self-respect knowingly have an affair with a committed person?
faerymagick15 faerymagick15
no way, no forgiveness. As someone who has personal experience with this as a betrayed spouse....I just can't see the "other woman's" side at all. There is NEVER a reason to have a relationship with a married man..especially if you knew he was married. But, if you lied about not knowing he was married then you are obviously ashamed, which is good. You should be. People don't realize how devastating am affair is on an entire family. It blows lives apart...lives that may not have been all that bad to begin with(not all affairs begin because of a bad marriage). So being ashamed of your involvement in an affair at least shows some kind of remorse.
Ms_Magnificent1 Ms_Magnificent1
Opps correction...*you could at least tell your bestfriend*. Sorry about any typos guys...
Ms_Magnificent1 Ms_Magnificent1
Not forgive...you knew you were wrong and as the saying goes "...the truth shall set you free". You could at tell your bestfriend...if you can't be honest with at least one person in this world what does that REALLY say about you?
Ms_Magnificent1 Ms_Magnificent1
Not forgive...you knew you were wrong and as the saying goes "...the truth shall set you free". You could at tell your bestfriend...if you can't be honest with at least one person in this world what does that REALLY say about you?
hope2be hope2be
Hmmm...forgive yourself and move on, and don't repeat same mistakes in the future.
aphill4 aphill4
I should have finished my thought, damn these comments for not being able to edit!It just seems odd that she feels so sorry about it now after 5 years, when it JUST came out in the open. If she hadn't been caught, would she be as guilt ridden as she is now?
aphill4 aphill4
I should have finished my thought, damn these comments for not being able to edit! It just seems odd that she feels so sorry about it now after 5 years, when it JUST came out in the open. If she hadn't been caught, would she be as guilt ridden as she is now?
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