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"My Boyfriend Is Turning Into My Best Friend"

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My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now, we started dating right after high school. My problem is he's becoming more of a best friend than a boyfriend. I guess I mean we're becoming too comfortable and the romantic aspect is gone. I don't think it's just the honeymoon phase is over either. I think the main problem is, I really don't have any friends. I'm not working right now although I'm trying to find a job. At my last job, I had for three years, I didn't like my coworkers, they gossiped all the time, one was horribly racist, we just didn't like each other as friends. I'm easy to get along with, I'm friendly and nice and compassionate. But I'm terribly shy, I've never been great with people although I'm not super awkward. We talk and get along but I've never been able to move a coworker relationship into friendship. Even the customers that I talked to every day. We got along great, but how do you make friends? So my point is, my BF is the person I talk to about everything, I don't have girlfriends to confide in or talk about dumb little things. He's the only one I have to share with, sometimes it's like he's my gay best friend. Also we haven't been intimate in a long time. We both live at home, but are moving in together in two months. I feel uncomfortable having sex in our parents house, it's disrespectful in my opinion. But I think moving in will help that aspect of my problem. I've looked online for groups in my city and haven't really found anything. Obviously money is tight since I'm unemployed so I can't spend a lot on groups or hobbies. But I really need to meet people and get friends. I need people to talk to outside my boyfriend. Any advice? Do you think my lack of friends is the reason I'm not feeling as romantic with my boyfriend? I'd really like to have a best friend, or at least a girlfriend I can hang out with and talk to so I don't dump everything on my BF.

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