Telling New Boyfriend About Previous Pregnancy

Group Therapy: Must I Tell Him Everything About My Past?

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I've finally found the greatest guy ever. I've known him in college as an acquaintance but we never were more than that. Fast forward 3 years post graduation and we somehow are enrolled in the same graduate program on the other side of the country. Things are great, I can see myself marrying him; I am ready to take the next step.

However, my past haunts me. I was sexually abused when I was in college, which my boyfriend knows about. I got therapy and I can deal with that okay. When I moved to my first job after college and began dating a total scumbag, I got pregnant but had a miscarriage. Again, I sought help and learned to deal with it as well.

I really want to tell my boyfriend this, but I'm afraid of his reaction. He's a pretty strong believer in the Catholic faith, but is not a virgin himself. He recognizes we both have a history (he was even engaged before). I don't know if he needs to know, since the whole situation was horrible to go through (basically, the guy who got me pregnant didn't believe me and left, and then I had a miscarriage). I don't want to lose the man I want to marry because of a stupid mistake when I was younger.

Do you think he needs to know?

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