Sunday Confessional: She Pushes Them Away

September 27, 2009

We're scouring the juicy (but anonymous!) secrets posted on Truu Confessions and letting you weigh in. This week, a confessor admits that she sabotages her love life.

"I once considered myself to have high standards. Though this is true, I have noticed when there are men that meet all the 'standards' I push them away by whatever means necessary."

Do you think this is a big deal?

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18 Comments

dikke kus 3 years 32 weeks

Sounds like fear. Maybe even anger. I don't know exactly. It's like acting the opposite of how you really want to be, sort of a self destruction. It's a complex thing. Most people won't sense that, but if someone wants to have a go at it, they could break down those walls.

simplystella 3 years 34 weeks

I can relate to that, and I know most of my girl friends do the same. So, whatever! I like to think that someday we'll find a man who's strong enough to bear with our "sabotages" ;)

3 years 34 weeks

Why are you guys dissing her? She seems to be unhappy and confused about this situation. It's not about being stuck-up or being a closet lesbian, it' deeper than that.

Sherellj 3 years 34 weeks

You know whatever...You have high standards in the first place then when you find someone thats perfect you push it away..whos to say another man might come back around for you and your standards

GlowingMoon 3 years 34 weeks

Truthfully, I think there is nothing wrong with this. Yes, it's a defense mechanism. When this woman is ready to have a relationship (if ever), she will let her defenses down. JMHO.

mamasitamalita 3 years 34 weeks

its fear, I set high standards knowing or hoping that nobody would ever live up to them so I couldn't get hurt, and then one day someone did and it rocked me a little bit, so it was a good lesson. I hope she figures her S--- out and finds happiness someday.

RoaringSilence 3 years 34 weeks

Wow.. that seems to be something only a therapist can fix, since she's already recognized the problem and still can't change it.Try dating girls?

RoaringSilence 3 years 34 weeks

Wow.. that seems to be something only a therapist can fix, since she's already recognized the problem and still can't change it. Try dating girls?

LilGlamDiva 3 years 34 weeks

I can relate though. I have strayed from my "standards" and it never ends well, reminding me why I had the "standards" to begin with. I don't see anything wrong with ending things with someone if you don't see them going anywhere. Why lead a person on?

ali321 3 years 34 weeks

I think french kiss may be on to something. And while I could add that you sound stuck up as well I think there's probably a lot more to it than that. It sounds like you have the whole get them before they get me issue. Maybe stop dating for a bit and focus on yourself instead.I never know if you're suppose to give advice or just say if it's a big deal. I'd say sort of. It's a big deal to you. And I sort of think it's a big deal because you're screwing with others emotions and maybe giving them their own issues. Figure yourself out before you date someone else.

ali321 3 years 34 weeks

I think french kiss may be on to something. And while I could add that you sound stuck up as well I think there's probably a lot more to it than that. It sounds like you have the whole get them before they get me issue. Maybe stop dating for a bit and focus on yourself instead. I never know if you're suppose to give advice or just say if it's a big deal. I'd say sort of. It's a big deal to you. And I sort of think it's a big deal because you're screwing with others emotions and maybe giving them their own issues. Figure yourself out before you date someone else.

spacekatgal 3 years 34 weeks

You sound a little stuck up to me.

French Kiss 3 years 34 weeks

Maybe you are afraid of gettin gcloser because if then you losse this person, you would loose the perfect one, like your soul mate, and you don't wanna take the risk... You shouldn't think so much about it and let it go =)