Should I Stop Hanging Out With My Brother's Ex?

Should I Stop Hanging Out With My Brother's Ex?

Dear Sugar
In December my brother started dating someone who l wound up forming a very close relationship with. We spent every day together and actually became best of friends.

Needless to say our relationship changed a little bit when they broke up seven months later. She took the break up extremely hard and wound up spiraling into a depression that resulted in a hospital stay.

About three weeks after she was released, she called me and asked me to go for a drive with her. She told me she had a secret she wanted to share, but that I was forbidden to tell my family about it. The secret was that she was pregnant with my brother's child.

I couldn't believe it. I tried my best to keep my mouth shut, but I was feeling really torn. This was too big of a deal for my brother not to know about it. Two weeks later I told my older sister who then gathered my brother and I together to call her on speaker phone.

I know that I wasn't supposed to reveal her secret, but she actually claimed that she didn't tell me this news and said that I must have read it in her diary. Why should it matter? That's not even the issue, the issue is the unborn child!

Ever since the call, we've drastically grown apart. We talked about what happened and both apologized. Yesterday, out of the blue she stopped by my house to see me. I was so happy and appreciated her reaching out to me. But, as it turned out, she acted rude and aloof. She basically fixated herself next to my brother on the couch and ignored me.

I am angry and I don't know what to do. Should I drop her as my friend or work on repairing the relationship? Confused Cassie

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Dear Confused Cassie
This girl doesn't deserve your time. She has zero integrity. First she doesn't tell your brother she's carrying his baby, then she lies directly to you when you all confronted her and now she's using you to get to your brother. You need her friendship about as much as you need a splinter in your eye.

I am sorry for the loss of your friendship however, I don't see how this is ever going to be a healthy relationship since her ulterior motive is to be close to your brother. Did you ever think about how a break up could impact your friendship?

I hate to say it, but most people know that getting too close to a family member of someone they date only means trouble. I have a feeling that although she enjoyed spending time with you, she also revelled in having first hand insight into your brother's life.

There may have been a saving grace until yesterday. If she was really over your brother and just wanted a friendship with you, then you may have been able to repair the damages. But after her actions yesterday, it is clear that she isn't focused on you. Again, I am sorry. I just have one question, did they decide how they are going to handle the baby issue?

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