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Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money?

"Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money or Let Things Work Themselves Out?"

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My boyfriend works for his brother and lately they have been going through some disagreements (not about work). Their relationship both professionally and personally has been suffering as a consequence. He adores his brother, but has expressed the need to get away from him for a while to clear his head. Getting paid by his brother is additionally hurting the situation.

I, on the other hand, am going to receive a reasonable amount of money in a year (selling our family house and dividing the shares). I constantly think about what to do with that money, specifically, I've always wanted to open my own business. Lately, I've been thinking that I should let my boyfriend start his business with that money instead. However, I feel like if I do this, I'll always wonder if he is with me because of the money or because he actually cares about me.

I'm just so confused. Do you think I should help him? I really hate to see him this sad. One year is a long time, after all, maybe he will patch things up with his brother organically? On the other hand, I would really like him to be independent, not needing his brother or even me. Although, shouldn't I be there for him, doing whatever it takes to make him happy?

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