Should I Do a Threesome With My Boyfriend?

Group Therapy: My Man Wants to Fulfill His Fantasy With Me in a Threesome

August 30, 2011

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When he first asked me, "Would I have sex with another woman?" we had only known each other for 2 months. It's been a year now, and he's still asking. I never did anything with a female, but he tells me it's only going to be one time. Should I do it? I am afraid that he may like it, and it becomes a problem.

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12 Comments

ChrissyLee 1 year 37 weeks

Only do what you feel comfortable with, and if he can't respect your boundaries it's time to move on!

fmminis 1 year 37 weeks

menage a trois ....c'est magnifique...

jenjen82 1 year 37 weeks

If you are serious about this relationship then I think it is NOT a good idea! I have read so many posts in papers and on the web about people who did this to please a man and it backfires almost every time. If your relationship was just some for fun fling thing and you were curious too, it would be different.

jenjen82 1 year 37 weeks

GTCB 1 year 37 weeks

This old chestnut again. Put your foot down and tell him your answer is no, will always be no, and that he is not going to change your mind. If that doesn't get through to him it is an indication of larger problems to come between you two.

testadura67 1 year 37 weeks

I'd say, "Sure, as long as we can have a threesome with another guy as well." Put him in your shoes so he can feel how uncomfortable it is.

Raynne413 1 year 37 weeks

If you don't want to do it, don't. I can guarantee you it won't just be "one time". And if you aren't into the idea, you will be miserable the entire time, while he's having the time of his life.

chibros 1 year 37 weeks

Since he is concern about fulfilling his fantasies with you, its good but if you are not ok with it, tell him straight away, you can use the excuse of "You might not feel comfortable playing with another girl" or "he should please give you more time to think of it and know if you would adjust".If you let him think it's his own problem, he will go somewhere else and solve his problem. I guess you wouldn't want it to happen. Or at worst if you don't want. you can make it clear to him in a mannerly way like "Dear, our relationship worth more than threesome, please lets work on ourselves and relationship first, its not all fantasies that worth fulfilling, it might ruin our relationship or create problems later on even if its once or twice. "

chibros 1 year 37 weeks

Since he is concern about fulfilling his fantasies with you, its good but if you are not ok with it, tell him straight away, you can use the excuse of "You might not feel comfortable playing with another girl" or "he should please give you more time to think of it and know if you would adjust". If you let him think it's his own problem, he will go somewhere else and solve his problem. I guess you wouldn't want it to happen. Or at worst if you don't want. you can make it clear to him in a mannerly way like "Dear, our relationship worth more than threesome, please lets work on ourselves and relationship first, its not all fantasies that worth fulfilling, it might ruin our relationship or create problems later on even if its once or twice. "

JoeTyndall 1 year 37 weeks

OP, Tell him it's nice to have fantasies, but it's his fantasy, not yours, and you're not interested. If he tries to push it any further, let us know and we'll give you some ideas.

JoeTyndall 1 year 37 weeks

OP, Tell him it's nice to have fantasies, but it's his fantasy, not yours, and you're not interested. If he tries to push it any further, let us know and we'll give you some ideas.

missmaryb 1 year 37 weeks

Don't do it if you're not 100% on board with the idea.

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