Sexless Marriage

Sunday Confessional: I'm in a Sexless Marriage

September 11, 2011

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I've been married to my husband for seven years and in the last five months we haven't had sex once. We've been dealing with stress financially. He lost his job for a while, but he's employed now. I don't feel like doing it, but I feel like I should be doing it.

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Bubbles12 1 year 24 weeks

My husband and I schedule one night a week that is non-negotiable and we make sure it happens. Every other night is gravy. Having the schedule takes a lot of pressure off the seductive dance, and even when our lives are most chaotic we make that really important connection (unless someone is sick, headaches don't count :) Sex is incredibly important, especially for a man's self-esteem.

Harley Quinn 1 year 30 weeks

I am married and have experience the same thing. Each time I made an effort to cuddle, snuggle and touch through out our day. Don't stress about the sex, stress about basic intimacy. The kiss here. The cuddle there. This is a great idea especially if there is a lot of stress or hardship in your mutual life. The hot nights will follow after you re-connected and when you are both ready.

stu999 1 year 31 weeks

It's the small things that create the path to tenderness both ways. Once that is the motive to just be great friends, care for each other more than anyone else - the rest will follow I am sure.

mrfeelgood 1 year 32 weeks

How about giving him a massage.

karlotta 1 year 36 weeks

After a long break, it's sometimes hard to get back into the swing of things - you get embarrassed and it's difficult to light up the engine. How about starting with re-creating some intimacy, without any pressure for actual sex? Like massages or back-scratching , or simple make-out sessions? Make it a game - honey, tonight we kiss until we our mouths are raw. If it's funny the first minute, I'm sure you'll turn out delighted and giggly, and who knows - maybe incredibly turned on. But don't make that the goal; simply reconnecting on a physical level without obligation, lightheartedly.

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