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The stars of the Sundance series Push Girls — Tiphany Adams, Auti Angel, Angela Rockwood, Mia Schaikewitz, and Chelsie Hill — are a group of kickass friends who happen to be in wheelchairs. The award-winning reality TV show (on its second season) follows the paralyzed women as they bravely help others struggling with disabilities and face their own hurdles in life, career, and relationships. And when it comes to sex, the ladies have found people have a lot of questions but are too shy to ask. So they're releasing a "sex guide," written by Paula Froelich, titled The Push Girls' Guide to Getting Your Groove On. We got a sneak peek of the first few chapters and are sharing some of the most intriguing insight into what sex is like on two wheels. Here's what we learned:

You Can Still Have an Orgasm
"I think people can figure out that you can have sex, but what I think they're asking is, 'do you enjoy it and can you have an orgasm?'" Mia said. Angela, a quadriplegic and enthusiastic sexer adds: "I can feel all up inside there and left labia and clitoris and yeah, I can feel it."

You Don't Just Date People in Wheelchairs
"Before the first season of the show aired, I think a lot more people were wondering like, 'Hmmm. Can they go on dates? If they go on dates, it's probably with people in wheelchairs?" Tiphany laughed. "Please. I'm like, if you have blue eyes does that mean you only date people with blue eyes?"

Self-Love Can Be Complicated
"I was my best friend," Auti says. "I had shower heads, fingers, tub faucets . . ." But for Angela, masturbation is not so much a solo venture. "Can I masturbate?" Angela asks, "Put it this way: I can do anything that I put my little heart to — but there's gonna be some assistance involved. Maybe prop me up, put some pillows behind me, give me the toy — whatever."

Suitors Have Used Some Horrible Pick-Up Lines
If you'd like to see a Push Girl evaporate before your eyes, just utter one of these awful lines:
"Can I Have a Ride?"
"Flashy chair — you have sex in that thing?"
"You're so pretty, it sucks that you're in a wheelchair."

For even more eye-opening revelations into the lives of these very cool women, be sure to check out the first three chapters of the guide tonight on SundanceChannel.com! Push Girls airs Monday nights at 10pm ET/PT on Sundance Channel.

Sweltering Summer days are on the horizon, so before you head to the pool to cool down, read our tips on how to keep your furry buddies from overheating, too.

• Make sure your dog or cat is well-hydrated. Soaring temperatures and being in the sun will dehydrate your pet fast, so make sure their water bowls are full, and if they spend a lot of time outdoors, keep a water bowl outside as well.
• Try to walk your dog early in the morning or at night, when the sun isn't blazing. If you have to walk him during the day, protect his paws from hot asphalt with dog booties. While exercise is always important for your dog, you can ease up on the intensity during the hot Summer months.

• Speaking of exercise, take advantage of lakes and beaches, or even doggie pools, in the Summer and kill two birds with one stone. Not only will your dog be getting plenty of exercise, he'll also keep cool while splashing in the water. Oh, and it's also a great way to have fun and bond, so make that three birds with one stone.

• Since your cat would probably rather sweat it out than jump into a body of water, look to other ways of cooling her down. A simple technique is to dampen a towel with cold water and gently pet your cat with it from the top of her head to her tail. You can also place the dampened towel in a cool spot in your house for her to lie on. For extra comfort, you can create a cool retreat out of a cardboard box (let's be honest, all cats love boxes). Line the box with a light fabric and place it in a cool corner of the house. You can spruce it up even more by tossing in some of her favorite toys or an ice pack stuffed inside a sock for extra chill.

For more tips on how to keep your pets cool in the Summer, just keep reading.

There's no better time to be a single gal than in the Summer — am I right? Just think of all the people waiting to be met and all the fun to be had. And forget needing a partner to enjoy the season — you can have the best time ever with friends or even by your awesome self. But any Summer-loving single girl knows that a bucket list is a must before the months fly by. Here, we've rounded up some seriously awesome ideas to make this your best Summer yet. That's what being a free spirit's all about, isn't it? Check 'em out, and get ready to flap those wings in the sun.

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I know that it sounds like I am a harlot, but there are extenuating circumstances. I just found out that I am pregnant. 5 weeks. The father has been my best friend and the love of my life for 13 years. A few years ago he ran off after his parents passed away, and he met this girl. We lost touch for 4 years but have since found each other again. Over the last year we have both struggled with our feelings for each other. He lives 7 hours away but has traveled to see me many times—a few of them to ask me to be with him, and I have done the same.

For one reason or another (entirely other post) it has not come to fruition. It came very close a few weeks ago: he and his girl had broken up "for good" and I was already in town looking for an apartment. We decided to spend a few days at the beach and plan our life together. There was a BIG miscommunication about me attending grad school in another city. He said that he would not stand in the way of my dream and he went back to her.

To make a very long story longer, I am definitely keeping the baby. I have spent years suffering from endometriosis and I was not sure that I could get pregnant. He had offered to be a donor for me a few months ago, but I could not afford the procedure. Then "she" found out. She became pregnant by him 3 years ago and had an abortion without his knowledge. They have not had a good relationship since, and while we really do try to just stay friends, we have an almost fairy-tale romance that keeps throwing us back together.

Right before I learned I was pregnant (last week), in an emotional fit, I told him that I was done with him for good and that I was not going to let him keep going back and forth between me and her, regardless of the reason. He was very hurt, swearing his undying love for me but said that he would not continue to hurt me and if letting go was what I needed he would do it, but that no matter what he would always be in love with me. In response, I told him to get over it and move on like I was. And now I find out I'm having his baby.

How I landed myself in this soap opera I do not know, but I am concerned about telling him before the 12 week "safe" mark. And there is going to be HELL to pay from her—she is already immature about her jealousy even though we never had a physical relationship until a couple of months ago. I'm worried about the stress that it will put on me and the baby—it's already very tough right now starting grad school and having just quit my cushy job to do so.

Anyhow, any advice for an accidental home-wrecker?

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There's a reason John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John felt so strongly about Summer lovin'. After all, the season's about turning up the heat and spending the hot sticky months with someone you love. Get on your way with a bucket list packed with fun and playful suggestions for a sexy Summer, be it in the bedroom or the great outdoors. With just three months left to check them off, what are you waiting for? Check out the ultimate Summer bucket list for couples now!

It's officially wedding season, and whether you're a bride, bridesmaid, or guest, surely many of you are getting in on the "I do" fun in one way or another this year. And while brides are the gals in the spotlight — wearing the crowns at the bachelorette parties and registering for gifts galore — they certainly aren't the only ones enjoying the perks of this nuptial season. In fact, it's a lot less stressful being a guest. Unattached? You don't need a plus-one to take advantage of a friend or family member's big day. Here are nine reasons to love wedding season when you're single and ready to mingle!

1. It's an excuse to dance. It's like a free club with people you know instead of strangers. What beats that?
2. There's an open bar. The alcohol will be flowing, and unlike the bride, you don't have to worry about being sober in front of relatives, awake enough for the "wedding night," and perky the next morning for a flight to Cancun.
3. It's less sketchy than a bar for meeting and flirting with guys. Other single guys attending the wedding have at least passed the crazy test with either the bride or groom, so they shouldn't be quite as creepy as bar hoppers.
4. Two words: bachelorette party. Bachelorette parties and destination weddings mean you have perfectly acceptable excuses to take lots of minivacations. And if you're single, then you'll be able to take advantage of any male attention. Nighty night, marrieds; see ya in the morning!
5. You can catch up with girlfriends you haven't seen in a while. With all the parties, showers, and big-day festivities, a wedding is a great way to reconnect with friends you've been too busy to spend time with.
6. There's free food and cake. While the bride is too busy to eat and too worried about her wedding dress figure to indulge in cake, you can partake guilt-free and just dance it off!
7. It's a reason to dress up. If you've been looking for a chance to rock your favorite cocktail dresses, a wedding is the perfect event to get all glammed up and flirt with a fellow guest (or that hot bartender!).
8. You can take notes for your own future wedding. As a guest, you can see what works and what doesn't firsthand and learn from their mistakes for your own big day!
9. It's a way to make new friends. If you don't know a ton of people at the wedding, there's no better icebreaker than a night of dancing and champagne toasts!

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My husband has a friend "John Doe," who hasn't had sex in many years. He is handsome — I think he looks kind of like a young Tom Hanks — and super sweet. He likes seeing romantic movies and miniseries and sometimes watches them with me. He is the most intelligent person I know and has an IQ of something like 180. His problem is that he was abused as a child and has depression. He was 9 the first time he attempted suicide and eventually turned to burning — he calls it "branding" — himself as a coping mechanism to avoid suicide. He doesn't do this stuff anymore, but he still has issues with depression. My husband has asked me if I would be willing to open our marriage to this friend of his. I am so conflicted about this. Here are my pros and cons.

Pros

• "John" is the nicest man I know, and I would love to be with him. If my husband ever dies or leaves me, I would marry him.
• I really think that I can help him with his problems with intimacy and women.
• My husband has talked about doing this for a long time and insists he is OK with the idea of me making love to his friend. He even says that if John and I fall in love he will be OK with it as long as I don't leave him or fall out of love with him — which would never happen.
• The idea of being with two men at the same time who both love me and accept each other is awesome.
• We don't have children, and even though it would tear me to pieces to lose my marriage if things go terribly wrong, everyone that would be involved is a consenting adult.

Cons

• I am really worried that John will be upset with my husband and I if we offer him this — he refuses to even go to strip clubs. I worry about ruining our friendship with him. I know he likes me a lot, but he still might refuse.
• It seems impossible that my husband won't eventually get jealous even if he promises he won't.
• Will I be jealous if John eventually gets another girlfriend? I don't think so, but I might change my mind if I fall in love with him.

I need some advice. What do you think?

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We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, HowAboutWe. Today, Maggie Parker spills some of the signs that your date is over before it's even begun.

We've all been there; sitting across from someone during a first date, wishing there were a way you could have known before you left your house on a rainy Sunday night that you were going to regret it.

There may not be a foolproof method for determining a date’s success in advance. But the few hours before a first date could offer some very clear red flags.

If you see one of said red flags, stop and take notice. We aren't saying you should cancel the date then and there, but if more than one flag gets waved, be sure you're paying attention. Here are the biggest signs to watch out for.

1. You ask where to meet and he says, "I don't know but I only have $(15 or less) in my bank account so somewhere cheap."

Why is he bringing up his financial problems before your first date? And come on, why does he have so little money in his bank account?! You may not care about his financial status at this moment, but a desire for financial stability is a reasonable request. Utter disregard for boundaries so early on is not.

2. He suggests you meet on a street corner, with no exact venue in mind.

A casual date is perfectly understandable, but on a first date, you are allowed to expect him to put the effort in. Call us old-fashioned, but the first date is when both parties should behave at their best. That requires doing a little research and actually coming up with a plan.

3. He knows you live far from him, but he suggests you meet him near his house/work.

If he's asking you to come to his territory so soon, take it as a sign that he isn't going to be the most considerate partner.

4. He has you pick the place, but then complains that he doesn't like that spot.

First of all, a gentleman offers to plan the date (and does it, if you take him up on his offer). Second of all, is a first date really the place to complain about the venue?

For five more signs, head to HowAboutWe: 9 Signs Your Date Is Going Downhill Before It Starts.

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