Maybe we could start by not confusing "settling" with "compromising." Doing so has created this idea that we are caving in, accepting a less-than-perfect match when we're really just accepting that another person is human. And anyone interested in making a relationship last will have to do that at some point. Being rational does not have to mean passionless.
"Feminists," Baird writes in "The Case Against Settling" in Newsweek, "told us to be wary of fairy tales, and not to spend our lives waiting for them to come true. It doesn't mean you have to 'settle,' or give up on love. Some things are still worth dreaming about."