I really want a boyfriend. I've never had one, so I think it's time. But, whenever I see a guy is going to come up to me, in my mind I'm like "no, no please don't come up to me." I get like all defensive I wouldn't say I get scared because that wouldn't be the right term. And when a guy does come up to me and asks for my number I don't want to give it to him, primarily because I'm not attracted. But, the ones that I am attracted to don't come up to me. But that's besides the point. What can I do to not feel that defensive no no get away from me feeling that I get when I see or think a guy is going to come up to me ? I'm in my early twenties by the way.