Saying No to Being a Bridesmaid in Sibling's Wedding

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I'm not mean; my brother is 22 years old (I am 27). I'm very happy that he is getting married. His soon-to-be wife was hidden from the family for the entire time that they (3 years) were together. He just told our family that he was going to get married — his soon-to-be wife is 19 years old and has a 5-year-old, and he was scared that we were going to judge him.

My brother and I aren't close; we have had a lot of conflicts over the years, and although we have made up and put the past in the past, I still feel as if he resents me for mistreating him when we were kids. He constantly belittles me, and makes fun of me in front of my boyfriend and family, and he puts me down. I'm much older now so I don't stoop to his level. He doesn't even have my phone number saved and deliberately ignores my texts messages. For Christmas and birthdays, he throws money at me and says he wishes he didn't have to get me anything.

I get the fact that he really dislikes me and it hurts a lot. There's not much more that I can do . . . He wants me to be in his wedding because my mother said it's important, but I feel as if he feels as if he is obligated to have me in his wedding.

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