Relationship Protocol: How Often Do You Fantasize About Others?

January 21, 2009

When you're in a committed relationship, it's not uncommon to fantasize about other men during those intimate times with your significant other. We often feel guilty about it, but let's be honest, men do it too! So ladies, tell me, how often do you fantasize about other people while getting it on with your special someone?

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3 years

Mine is sort of similar. My brain keeps wanting justification for it. Sometimes I really think my brain operates on its own lol...When I have sex with my husband I never fantasize about someone else even if I don't want to have sex I just can't think about anyone else because I'm too focused on him. But if I am alone AND bored I will think about being a scientist on the Starship Enterprise (I'm a nerd I know) and being with Dr. Mccoy. But the only reason I fantasize about him is because Karl Urban is so amazingly delicious but what's odd is I never fantasize about the actor just the character he plays. Sometimes I feel guilty though because I am married, but from the comments on here I am not alone so maybe it is somewhat healthy. I don't ever think about someone in my life even random cute guys on the street, I just think about movie characters (mainly the ones Karl Urban plays :).

dm8bri 4 years

If I fantasize, it's about a completely imaginary man, like a faceless hot doctor or professor or something. Or I imagine my man as one of those characters. Very rarely my hot hookup buddy from college will sneak in.

Crue 4 years

I'm a one man woman!!!!!!

Crue 4 years

I'm a one man woman!!!!!!

sparklestar 4 years

When I was with my ex I used to fantasise about my boyfriend (his best friend)... Now I fantasise about... getting a good nights sleep?? :)

sparklestar 4 years

When I was with my ex I used to fantasise about my boyfriend (his best friend)...Now I fantasise about... getting a good nights sleep?? :)

Muirnea 4 years

Never during sex. Then all I'm thinking about is my bf. But other times when he's not around, yeah just random made up stuff or those "what if" guys.

Anne26 4 years

Never, I think if you are with the right one that's the only guy you fantasize about.

hithatsmybike 4 years

I fantasize about us being cast in different roles or situations more than different people, but I entertain the odd fantasy on occasion. I enjoy it, and the bf doesn't mind =) I think he probably does the same sometimes too, which I'm ok with -- I can be evangeline lilly for a night or two ;)

hithatsmybike 4 years

I fantasize about us being cast in different roles or situations more than different people, but I entertain the odd fantasy on occasion.I enjoy it, and the bf doesn't mind =) I think he probably does the same sometimes too, which I'm ok with -- I can be evangeline lilly for a night or two ;)

bekkachan 4 years

Never during if I want it;I'm not coherent enough. If I don't & he insists I just smack him. :) But sometimes, I do kind of wistfully fantasize about what it would be like to kiss other people. Never goes beyond that though.

PinkNC 4 years

"Fantasizing is what helps keep monogamy interesting" I liked that one *melizzle* :)

PinkNC 4 years

"Fantasizing is what helps keep monogamy interesting"I liked that one *melizzle* :)

divinedebris 4 years

Not during sex but other times, boredom and what not. It's usually only actors and my favorite musician, my go to man Trent Reznor but other than that, no. In my books the main character man is my husband, I'm a nerd.

melizzle 4 years

Of course. Fantasizing is what helps keep monogamy interesting. ;)

Hiding55 4 years

I have fantasized about other men in the past. Now, I don't even look at other guys which is really weird for me. I got what I want.

cordata 4 years

I fantasize about scenarios and people that I'd never pursue in real life. There are also the "what if" guys from the past

Frank y Ava 4 years

I fantasize about a lot of people. People I think are cute, friends, sometime co-workers, and people that I've made up in my head. I do a lot of daydreaming..

jesssa 4 years

never while having sex with him!! when we aren't gettin' it on, from time to time my mind wanders to others a little i guess, subconsciously

jesssa 4 years

never while having sex with him!!when we aren't gettin' it on, from time to time my mind wanders to others a little i guess, subconsciously

xopiperxo 4 years

i have never done this. i don't even know how i would be able to? i am so into the moment that all i think about is my bf.

macchiatolove 4 years

I would be between never and very infrequently - sometimes, like Oohsexypengu said, if I've seen a particularly attractive actor, or read a particularly raunchy book, but mostly I'd fantasize about my partner doing things with me :)

stumbler02 4 years

darlingDA - exactly! i don't have any elaborate thoughts while hooking up...definitely not picturing anything!

princess_eab 4 years

Never - I've only ever fantasized about my boyfriends or fictional characters, actually. Current boyfriends of course. I can't even imagine fantasizing about someone else while actually having sex - how sad.

Myst 4 years

I won't lie, my guy looks like a mix of two of my favorite Asian actors, Vic Zhou and Dennis O'neil and it happened a couple of times after I watched one of their shows or movies.

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