Relationship Protocol: Does Your Significant Other Blame Your Period?

September 19, 2008

Although our periods serve a fabulous purpose, they also comes with a plethora of nasty PMS symptoms: mood swings, volatile emotions, crabbiness, food cravings, bloating — the list goes on and on. And since our period, and everything that comes along with it, only affects us women, it can be an easy target of blame from men. I know from experience how infuriating it is to have your significant other blame your actions on your monthly friend when in fact, your period has absolutely nothing to do with it. I call those assumptions cheap shots! Does this happen in your relationship? Does your significant other ever blame your mood on your period, even when it's nowhere in sight?

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calli gurl 4 years 21 weeks

i dont get mood swings. i just get stomach cramps, lower back aches, boob aches and fever (sometimes). lol. so he doesnt really have anything to blame it on

soybean589 4 years 34 weeks

JaimeLeah526: Love the retort. I actually lol'd. I absolutely hate it if women complain about their men (or women if you please) and, instead of the men responding appropriately, the men simply brush it off with a PMS comment. I may be on my period, but that doesn't explain why you're a d**k (or b***h if you please).

soybean589 4 years 34 weeks

JaimeLeah526: Love the retort. I actually lol'd.I absolutely hate it if women complain about their men (or women if you please) and, instead of the men responding appropriately, the men simply brush it off with a PMS comment. I may be on my period, but that doesn't explain why you're a d**k (or b***h if you please).

JaimeLeah526 4 years 34 weeks

I'd kill him if he did, that is just rude and ignorant. "Sorry honey I can't talk to you because you have PMS and might bite my head off." My reply would be "sorry babe I can't talk to you either because you have testicles and no brain all month." UGH. Luckily my husband would never say anything like that.

Belle1031 4 years 34 weeks

I'm with Skigurl, its BJ week when Aunt Flow visits! lol. ;) Works both ways though since I love giving him BJ's.

ilanac13 4 years 35 weeks

i don't know if it's because my fiance is older than i am by quite a few years, but he's never ever used my period as a cause or excuse for why i'm being the way that i am. i think that it's refreshing actually since that's one of the go to comments that guys use when they don't know how to react to moods.

death by chocolat 4 years 35 weeks

My husband never does this... he knows just as well as I do when my period comes, and I don't get many emotional symptoms (just bloaty/crampy :-(). HOWEVER, I had a bf in highschool who felt major wrath for doing this. We were in an argument privately, and then at lunch that day he brought up our argument in front of 8-10 of our friends. Then he started making jokes about me and how it was my period (which, it wasn't!) I poured my can of Pepsi onto his lap, stood up, crushed the can in my hand, and threw it across the room into the trash can. Then I left the room. Needless to say he didn't try to blame things on me or my period again, and, we didn't date too much longer after that. :-P

death by chocolat 4 years 35 weeks

My husband never does this... he knows just as well as I do when my period comes, and I don't get many emotional symptoms (just bloaty/crampy :-().HOWEVER, I had a bf in highschool who felt major wrath for doing this. We were in an argument privately, and then at lunch that day he brought up our argument in front of 8-10 of our friends. Then he started making jokes about me and how it was my period (which, it wasn't!) I poured my can of Pepsi onto his lap, stood up, crushed the can in my hand, and threw it across the room into the trash can. Then I left the room. Needless to say he didn't try to blame things on me or my period again, and, we didn't date too much longer after that. :-P

sparklestar 4 years 35 weeks

My boyfriend doesn't even mention mine, he doesn't care about it (like, it's not an issue). We have sex as normal (first guy I've been with who hasn't had a MAJOR ISSUE with it) and he is sympathetic when I have cramps. I get a bit more emotional before my period (major PMS) but he just holds me if I have a bit of a cry and is lovely about it. Aww.

sparklestar 4 years 35 weeks

My boyfriend doesn't even mention mine, he doesn't care about it (like, it's not an issue). We have sex as normal (first guy I've been with who hasn't had a MAJOR ISSUE with it) and he is sympathetic when I have cramps.I get a bit more emotional before my period (major PMS) but he just holds me if I have a bit of a cry and is lovely about it. Aww.

NatashaAlexis 4 years 35 weeks

He did once, but based on my reaction he was smart enough never to do it agian. I don't think it is ever fair in a realtionship to assume you know what is going on with the other person without asking.

Vaadsfweytes 4 years 35 weeks

He never blames it on my period. However, even if he did, I wouldn't mind it. Because my temper gets out of control for a week before my period comes, and I do or say a lot of things I would regret later on.

Muirnea 4 years 35 weeks

This pisses me off SO bad!!!!!!!!! They just use it as a way to get out of having to admit they did something wrong, like it's not really them being an asshole, it's just you PMSing. I know I get irritated about everything around then, but that doesn't mean I don't know what actually makes me mad, I can tell the difference. My brain still works ya know!!! Maybe they just assume our brains don't work during that time b/c THEIR brains shut off whenever their sexual organs do anything. ;-) haha Chrsten: "They are seriously the weaker sex -- can't handle anything...and always put the blame on something else!" Omg, I agree so much!!! BJ week and all comments about it= hahahahahhaha!! LMAO!! :)

Muirnea 4 years 35 weeks

This pisses me off SO bad!!!!!!!!! They just use it as a way to get out of having to admit they did something wrong, like it's not really them being an asshole, it's just you PMSing. I know I get irritated about everything around then, but that doesn't mean I don't know what actually makes me mad, I can tell the difference. My brain still works ya know!!! Maybe they just assume our brains don't work during that time b/c THEIR brains shut off whenever their sexual organs do anything. ;-) hahaChrsten: "They are seriously the weaker sex -- can't handle anything...and always put the blame on something else!" Omg, I agree so much!!! BJ week and all comments about it= hahahahahhaha!! LMAO!! :)

elmer7887 4 years 35 weeks

its the worst when he blames it on my period and im seriously extremely angry (on period or not).....it just frustrates me sooo much more!

karlotta 4 years 35 weeks

I become a raging maniac 3 days before my period, and sometimes, if my boyfriend does something screwed up during those days, he will NEVER admit to it and just blame my reaction on my PMS, which makes me even madder. That's how I got my nose broken once - I went so crazy with rage I tried to hit him, and, shielding his face, he knocked into me by accident and broke my nose. I think it's incredibly sexist and I hate when he does that. It's such an easy copout... and what can you respond??

karlotta 4 years 35 weeks

bluestar 4 years 35 weeks

The last guy that asked me if I was got ripped a new one. At least I have an excuse to be a super bitch, if I want to use it, but what excuse do they have to be complete assholes?

thelorax 4 years 35 weeks

Sometimes, yes. To be fair, though, I'll admit that I can definitely be moody even though I'm on monophasic birth control pills so I probably deserve it.

omilawd 4 years 35 weeks

It's not just my boyfriend, it's a lot of guys I know! I'll be upset or bitchy, and someone will say, "Forget about it, you're probably just on your period.">:[

omilawd 4 years 35 weeks

It's not just my boyfriend, it's a lot of guys I know! I'll be upset or bitchy, and someone will say, "Forget about it, you're probably just on your period." >:[

Chrstne 4 years 35 weeks

I hate when it happens. Like, I'll be pissed for a LEGIT reason, and he'll be like "you're only acting like this because your PMSing". I'm infuriated! I'm sorry, but men have no idea what it is like to have PMS, and you know when it is just PMS and when it is not. Crying at commericals or something you never do is caused by PMS. Throwing a fit because your man threw your cat out the window is a legitimate reason. They just use it against you because they can't come up with anything snappy to say back to your comments. They are seriously the weaker sex -- can't handle anything...and always put the blame on something else!

cotedazur 4 years 35 weeks

Ahhh... my husband does this all the time, usually in a joking manner because he know it gets on my nerves. Pretty much anytime I snap or overreact, he'll say (half-laughing), "Are you sure you're not going to get your period soon?" It really annoys me because I have few or no symptoms of PMS, so he's completely stereotyping me!

Jude C 4 years 35 weeks

He doesn't make those jokes just because I'm a little cranky, but I actually do get super grumpy around my period, and he'll remind me gently that I'm PMSing if I start getting irrationally pissy with him. It helps, because it does pull me out of my mood and remind me that the problem is probably not as big as I'm making it out to be in my hormonal state.

GlowingMoon 4 years 35 weeks

No, he never has. Actually, I'm the first to tell him that I'm not feeling well because of my cycle. I know when I ovulate, and that's when I start feeling unwell.

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