Relationship Protocol: Do You Mix His Friends With Yours?

October 2, 2008

Doing just about anything with a group can be tricky. The more people, the more opinions and personalities are butting up against one another. And combining two groups together can upset any kind of balance that’s already been achieved, which is often the case when you try to combine your friends with your boyfriend’s. Even so, I think it’s worth a try, since establishing a group of mutual friends is completely convenient when it comes to socializing. What do you think? Do you mix your friends with his? Or are they both fairly separate?

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JaimeLeah526 4 years 32 weeks

Of course. Most of our friends end up becoming the other person's friends too. One time two of my friends and two of his friends lived in our house at the same time. It was a lot of fun and those were the best memories.

fancifulfabi 4 years 32 weeks

All my friends and my bf's friends get along great! He and I threw a couple bonfires this summer and invited everyone; the trick to being a good hostess is finding ways to steer conversations so that they don't isolate any one person or group. For example, if one of my bf's friends is talking about his car problems, I'll turn to one of my friends and say "didn't you have a similar problem with your car? how did you deal with it?", and that way I lead people who don't know each other into conversations with one another (it totally eases that initial tension).

ohkate 4 years 32 weeks

I try to... lately it hasn't really worked that well but we try again anyway (;

kristine923 4 years 32 weeks

both people in the relationship had separate lives before they were together, so to add all of the aspects of their lives together, including friends, might end up being too much time together. It's funny, my boyfriend has a lot of girlfriends, and I have mostly guy friends, and we are both fine with it, but they are his friends so I don't need to intervene.

Mesayme 4 years 32 weeks

I forgot to add.. I treat all friends like family because I like small groups of friends in the first place. I don't call just anyone a friend.

Mesayme 4 years 32 weeks

I tend to be friends with the females and him with the males. I don't make buddies out of my guy's buddies. Cures all kinds of drama. And I wouldn't date men with female friends, that's out completely.

JustSomeChick 4 years 32 weeks

I have, but generally try not to because my friends are all so DRAMA that it's exhausting.

ilanac13 4 years 32 weeks

in past relationships i have mixed friends and it makes for an interesting dynamic because it shows me what our differences are, however now my fiance's friends are all over the country as are mine, so we don't really have opportunities to mix our friends. it'll be interesting out our wedding since that will be the time when it'll happen.

stargazer25 4 years 32 weeks

Try at least, too busy to try not too. How else would you make adequate time for 'em all.

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