Relationship Protocol: Can You Share a Bedroom While Visiting Family?

December 23, 2008

Our parents' generation is typically more conservative when it comes to sex and cohabitation before marriage, so when visiting them with your significant other, discussing the sleeping arrangements can be a bit awkward for all involved. I know many parents who believe that under their roof, their rules apply regardless of the situation back home; but others simply choose to turn a blind eye.

Since many of you will be traveling to visit family in these next few days, tell me, will you be allowed to sleep in the same room as your significant other?

Source

59 Comments

PinkNC 4 years 20 weeks

Why not just be real about it? Your relatives know that you're probably sharing a bed together elsewhere, so why not at their home too, it saves space. But I do think that you should respect your parents or other realatives and not do anything that can be heard by them ;)

opisnowpro 4 years 21 weeks

:OY:

opisnowpro 4 years 21 weeks

:OY:

opisnowpro 4 years 21 weeks

: OY : HA

opisnowpro 4 years 21 weeks

: OY : HA

Frank y Ava 4 years 21 weeks

I can't remember what she said in it's entirety but she said something along the lines of...Why would you sleep with someone if your not married, you shouldn't spread your legs for someone b/c your just the girl he's with at that second. I don't understand why someone would do that unless you are a ho-slut.I think it was something like that. Someone else can correct me if they remember.

Frank y Ava 4 years 21 weeks

I can't remember what she said in it's entirety but she said something along the lines of... Why would you sleep with someone if your not married, you shouldn't spread your legs for someone b/c your just the girl he's with at that second. I don't understand why someone would do that unless you are a ho-slut. I think it was something like that. Someone else can correct me if they remember.

Marci 4 years 21 weeks

:( I can't find Tnmom's comment.

Marci 4 years 21 weeks

:( I can't find Tnmom's comment.

opisnowpro 4 years 21 weeks

now we are married but before at my parent´s house in separate rooms and at his parent´s house in the same room, so much fun!!!......BTW what Tnmom said? LOL

allthingsgrow 4 years 21 weeks

My mom wouldn't object, but if he were to come over to my dad's house it would be different. There are two twin beds in my room so it'd be expected my guy would probably sleep on the OTHER twin bed... haha. But I'm going to visit my guy and his family in March, and he warned me that for his little sisters' sake we'd have different rooms. On that front, I understand.

allthingsgrow 4 years 21 weeks

mnp 4 years 21 weeks

This came up the other night during the snow storm. The beau and I had to find a place to park our car and we decided to stay over my mom's place. She didn't say anything now because I'm living on my own and it's a one time deal. However, she does mention it to my sister who lives at home that having her bf over all the time isn't good.

Marci 4 years 21 weeks

I never would have been comfortable staying in the same room in my fiance's parent's house, but that's just my own thing. If everyone's fine with it, who cares. But if anyone isn't entirely comfortable with it, then I would respect their wishes. It's just a few days, so why make a big issue of it and potentially cause hard feelings that will be there down the road.

luckyme 4 years 21 weeks

LOL at Tnmom. Wowza. Since you have "mom" in your name, I can only assume that you have children, and for them I feel sorry. Your daughter is going to think she is a "ho-slut" for dating and your son will be out "to do the best he can do at the time." Lovely things to instill in your children... Anyway, my IL's are more conservative than my parents, so they had us wait until we were engaged (well, my MIL anyway, my FIL would let us stay in the same room when she wasn't home, lol). My parents are far more liberal and had no issues with it. Now that we're married with a baby and another one on the way, we're in the same room, no doubt.

luckyme 4 years 21 weeks

LOL at Tnmom. Wowza. Since you have "mom" in your name, I can only assume that you have children, and for them I feel sorry. Your daughter is going to think she is a "ho-slut" for dating and your son will be out "to do the best he can do at the time." Lovely things to instill in your children...Anyway, my IL's are more conservative than my parents, so they had us wait until we were engaged (well, my MIL anyway, my FIL would let us stay in the same room when she wasn't home, lol). My parents are far more liberal and had no issues with it. Now that we're married with a baby and another one on the way, we're in the same room, no doubt.

melizzle 4 years 21 weeks

We weren't allowed to until we were engaged.

Witchy Ways 4 years 21 weeks

Well, of course we can sleep in the same room. I don't know what counts as a conservative family but I live in fucking Austria where most people are catholic and generally more conservative and not one friend of mine would come to mind who isn't allowed to sleep in the same bed with their boyfriend.

Witchy Ways 4 years 21 weeks

Well, of course we can sleep in the same room.I don't know what counts as a conservative family but I live in fucking Austria where most people are catholic and generally more conservative and not one friend of mine would come to mind who isn't allowed to sleep in the same bed with their boyfriend.

starangel82 4 years 21 weeks

Although I'm single, my parents would have me and a significant other in seperate bedrooms until we were married. I completely understand and don't complain... then again, the rules will probably be the same for my kids as well.But to each their own I say. But meh, we are all Ho-Sluts anyway according to tnmom.

starangel82 4 years 21 weeks

Although I'm single, my parents would have me and a significant other in seperate bedrooms until we were married. I completely understand and don't complain... then again, the rules will probably be the same for my kids as well. But to each their own I say. But meh, we are all Ho-Sluts anyway according to tnmom.

sparklestar 4 years 21 weeks

We don't have the luxury of having that many rooms. ;p My parents would never object and neither do his. THANKFULLY. I'm 24 and it would be weird if they did.

skigurl 4 years 21 weeks

my bf and i don't ask, we just get into the bed in our room (like our childhood room) when it's time to sleep and don't make a big fuss of it. it all begins when we walk into the house and put our suitcases in the same room.and tnmom, you're ridiculous. obviously you're 96 years old? because that's the only way i could imagine you being so ridiculously conservative and abrasive.

skigurl 4 years 21 weeks

my bf and i don't ask, we just get into the bed in our room (like our childhood room) when it's time to sleep and don't make a big fuss of it. it all begins when we walk into the house and put our suitcases in the same room. and tnmom, you're ridiculous. obviously you're 96 years old? because that's the only way i could imagine you being so ridiculously conservative and abrasive.

fashion_doll24 4 years 21 weeks

Thanks tnmom, for clearing up why my boyfriend and I are still together after 5 years. All that time I was under the false impression that it was because we love each other, but thankfully you made me see the light, it's just because I spread my legs for him and am the best he can get now. That MUST be it! Thanks for making me see the light and a merry christmas to you for spreading all that love here.

Link Love

59 Comments

You Might Also Like